Filthy yet clean?

Anonymous

Filthy yet clean?

My 15 year old son loves his bedroom to be a mess, it seems. I’ve helped him clean it up a million times, but it always ends up the same. I am a single parent and work night shift in healthcare and often am not home for dinner time. Meals are always prepared ready for he and his brother (18). Both boys prefer to eat in their rooms and not at the table, which bugs me but I can’t do much about it when I’m not there. He often has friends over and they just leave food and crap everywhere, drinks split on the floor and boys have been smoking in there, there are butts all over the carpet.
I went crook the other day and told him I’m sick of busting my ass to provide for my family and he disrespects me and himself by living like a pig. He wonders why he has no socks and jocks. They’re all on the floor in a filthy mess of dishes and split drinks. So he tried to tidy up. Ended up needing his asthma puffer because it was so bad. I told him in that case he needs to listen to me and not LET it get like that.
The funny thing is, although his room looks and smells like hell, he is absolutely fastidious about other cleanliness. He scrubs his hands after the loo, won’t use a towel more than once because he doesn’t want something that’s been on his bum and balls to go on his face, if someone breaks wind when he’s eating he will throw the food away.

Is this normal?? My older daughter and my other boy weren’t like this.

Posted in:  Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression, Health & Wellbeing, Teenagers, Tips and Advice, Puberty

9 Replies

Anonymous

Smoking in there got me. Thats a hard no, Id lose my shit. Is smoking allowed in your house in general? And hes asthmatic?!
My daughter gets an asthma attack every time she has to clean, its all the dirt and dust getting stirred up, and its the same thing - you have to do it more often so it doesnt get that bad.
I think since youve already gone through this with 2 older ones you know whats the norm. Is he a bit spoilt being younger and has been allowed to get away with more.

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Anonymous

Of course it’s NOT allowed. I’ve never smoked and I didn’t know they were doing it. He’s apparently been smoking in there with mates when I’m on night shift.

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Anonymous

I would be absolutely ropable. Come down super strict if hes going to muck around and be that disrespectful, zero visitors. Id even go to the extent of threatening to get him a babysitter if he cant act right and needs watching. Camera monitor on the door.

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Anonymous

I would be telling him that friends are not allowed over while I’m working until he can be trusted. I would also be calling his friends parents and telling them about the smoking.

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Anonymous

Use the 'butt n balls vs face on the towel' analogy for his room. He throws away food cause someone farted near his food, but he leaves his food scraps in the room he sleeps in? Cockies running over his bed in his sleep, ants nesting, maybe even mice/rats visiting when he's not there... His jocks are on the floor with his mates durries... Really mate, no wonder you don't want your towel from your butt near your face - nothing to do with your towel, everything to do with where your jocks have been...

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Anonymous

Put a smoke alarm in his room

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Anonymous

Should be one in there already. I know rentals must have one in every bedroom and they need to be interconnected. Not sure about owner occupier homes but think it’s similar.

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Anonymous

Really? We have two for the whole house.

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Anonymous

Thats a new law coming

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