What's wrong with the world? And what ever happened to real friends?

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What's wrong with the world? And what ever happened to real friends?

How do people make friends honestly ? the world has become so nasty and I feel true friends no longer exist. Why is everyone so judgemental? Why do we have to be someone we are not to fit in ? Where is the love? Where is the kindness? Where is the trust? Gone are the days people truly care for their friends and accept them for who they are. Some days I feel so sad and lonely and all I have ever wanted was to have a small group of best friends like in the movies, one that is unbreakable, one full of happiness, loyalty, trust , love and kindness. Sadly I have ADHD AND ASD1 I always am kind and loyal but I know I can be a hot head when my friends or family are hurt. I will be brutally honest and people think this is a bad thing Why? I am labelled the b***h for being honest, Why is it bad to protect the ones you love? Why is it bad to put others in their place when they are so nasty and disrespectful? Why does this make me a bad person? Since covid mental health has gone up 25% in Australia and I can see why. What's wrong with the world, when did it become so acceptable to be so toxic and cruel?. I guess I know I will never have many true friends and this is so sad but something I will live with. I just wish there was more love and less war , more acceptance , more kindness. The world's a lonely place and I fear what my children will go through. I hate not having more friends to share memories with, I am heart broken I feel I letting my children down not having all the friends to catch up with on weekends and holidays. I guess this is more me venting. I have 1000 so called friends on Facebook yet feel so lonely. Maybe I am not pretty enough, maybe my past is to broken, maybe I am unlikeable, maybe I was never meant to have friends.

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Anonymous

Honesty should never be brutal to friends, it’s all in the delivery.
Having a hot head usually leads to saying things that are the opposite of kind and caring.
You’re the common denominator.
My nana was the meanest woman on the planet, but if you asked her, she would say everyone hates me because I’m the only honest person. No one liked her.

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Anonymous

Brutally honest is not rude or nasty its extremely honest, I can't tell my friend she looks amazing in a dress when it's horrible , I said I am brutally honest not nasty I would just word it in a way like maybe it's not the most flattering dress, or how about we try some more styles. When I am asked something I not going to lie about the answer to make someone else happy and this does not make me a nasty person. I don't go out of my way to be negative I try and always be positive in every aspect of life. I never said no one likes me I just said I wish I had better connections I guess.

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Anonymous

Did your friend ask for your opinion on her dress? If she loves it, it doesn't matter if you think it looks horrible if she never even asked.

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Anonymous

I like being around people like you. You know where you stand and don’t ever change that. Good on you! keep being true to yourself, the right friends will come. My wrong friends left my life when I started speaking up to them and not allowing them to walk all over me. I have now found my tribe. You need a new circle. Find ways to find new friends.

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Anonymous

Everyone I know who has claimed to be "Brutally honest" has just been plain rude and uses it as an excuse to say mean things to someone.

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Anonymous

*Says someone insulting to a friend*
"I was just trying to help you. I was just being honest"
Wonders why no one likes them...

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Anonymous

Maybe I have chosen the wrong words because I am always looking for positives in life , I look for the positive in negative situations to help change situations to make them better. I think everyone is beautiful in their own way however it was more this world has become so nasty and cruel and its just not ok.

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Anonymous

I think we expect people to treat us the same and have the same heart as ours. I am the same but I actually enjoy my kids company, I can’t be bothered with people anymore.

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Anonymous

Me either.

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Anonymous

I think you just have met the right friends yet. Join some groups or move and meet new friends. Change something in your life that will bring new friends. I moved to QLD and have found the best friends that I never had. I am glad the rest are back where they are. My life has never been happier. I let people use me. I have learnt and now I just have real genuine friends.

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Anonymous

You can be brutally honest but you also have to understand you may not be right. So it’s good to be honest but know when to step back. I know people who are brutally honest and they are hilarious but then I know some who are rude and it comes across as arrogant. Work on cutting back the brutal part, keep being you but try and change the brutal. It’s probably how you were raised so it will take time but stop and think before you speak. There is nothing wrong with you though. I don’t really see many people sh all, my life is my kids. Everyone is always busy or no one bothers contacting me so I just leave it up to them now. I’ve done my bit being there for everyone. It’s time to put me first & my kids. Join some clubs or social groups. Don’t let people in too quick to your life. Try and catch up with your kids friends and their parents. Make new friends. Join walking groups, book clubs, anything to get you mixing but drop the brutal and just be happy you.

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Anonymous

Those small close friends groups like in the movies exist, but they're not the norm.
I have one, and I'm so thankful for it. These are women I've known since high school and 25 years later we're as close as we've ever been. If it wasn't for them, I'd be completely friendless because I am the most socially awkward person.

We meet people everyday. So be open everyday to making new friends. When you say you want friends to catch up with on weekends and holidays, why not start camping with your kids and make friends that way? I'm in both local and national camping groups that have get togethers and tag-alongs. You can make friends as a family instead of putting all the pressure on yourself to make friends alone. If that's not your thing, anything that involves groups or teams like sport, a theatre, volunteering.

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