I have been with my partner for 20 years and always known that he smokes pot. He has been smoking it since he was around 16 and is now 40. I always assumed that one day he would just grow up and stop. However over the years I have sensed more issues and realised he is incapable of quitting anything. He drinks every day (a lot) and brews his own alcohol which I think makes it worse. He is always anxious, stressed and angry and the only time he is happy is when he’s stoned and not too drunk. We have four kids that have no bond with him and I am constantly mediating between him
and the kids to ensure that everyone is okay because the kids don’t like spending time with him. He falls asleep on the lounge every single night and refuses to accept that he has a problem. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. I am not his parent and I can’t keep taking responsibility for him and making excuses for him. If I leave we will struggle financially (we’d have to sell our home) and my kids won’t have a Dad around, but I don’t know what I can do as he refuses to admit there is a problem. I’ve also been told by friends he takes other drugs I am unaware of and I’ve asked him about this but he also denies everything. I have never gotten into pot or any other drugs and it’s difficult for me to understand addiction. I must also add that he hides his drugs and never smokes around the kids or me. Has anyone been in a similar situation and maybe have advice on what to do?
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You need to not think financial but think of yourself, your kids and your future. There is ways out. You have to want to get out of the situation so bad and just do it and don’t look back. They’ll still have their dad, just in seperate houses. My husband drinks but works his butt off. I told him I won’t put up with it. Carton a week ok but anymore I’m out.