Am I wrong?

Anonymous

Am I wrong?

My birthday was coming up and it coincided with a trip that my husband and I had to take for something else. I suggested we stay on a couple of days cause it was my birthday that week and I thought it would be nice to have a few days relaxing and enjoying ourselves. I work very hard in my role, it’s quite stressful and I was really looking forward to some downtime. I booked the accommodation, dinners, car hire, shows etc, everything for the trip. We were having a great time. I decided that I would like to buy myself a birthday gift, nothing extreme, a few hundred dollars on some clothes. I can afford it, I work hard for my money and no one else is going to buy me a gift so I thought why not. According to my partner I had an ulterior motive for this whole trip, to go shopping. I did actually need to buy some clothes for some work functions that I have coming up but he says I lied to him, and now I feel like absolute crap, sitting in my hotel room crying. He’s having a nap cause he doesn’t want to go anywhere. And I don’t even want to think about my birthday this week..I just want to go home.. did I do the wrong thing?

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Anonymous

Hes a cunt. You have a beautiful holiday, its your birthday, and youre bickering about you shopping? Hes wrecking it on purpose.
Now hes fast asleep while youre in pieces. That says it all. Pay close attention. Send him home and enjoy your birthday sans ahole.

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Anonymous

Sounds a bit more to it? Pretty normal thing to go shopping on holidays. I would say he's annoyed at something else, maybe he didn't want to be dragged around shops all day, he wanted to see the sights or something? I hate shopping so I would be really annoyed if my husband wasted half my holidays wanting to shop. Or maybe he stayed behind at the hotel waiting for you? Again, annoying. Nobody wants to sit in the hotel all day while their partner is out buying themselves gifts. Look past the surface to see the real problem.

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Anonymous

TBH, I could not imagine my partner being stupid enough to say something like that. On the other hand, he doesn't enjoy the things I enjoy so 99 times out of 100 he's not invited.
You don't come across as being stupid, you know you haven't done anything wrong.
Enjoy your time while you're away, celebrate your birthday next week and if this husband/partner of yours is still being a cockhead about it question what's going on his life to make him want to sabotage yours.

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Anonymous

Fuck me, what an absolute asshole. He sounds like a gaslighter who is trying to make you feel bad because you have done something for yourself.

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Anonymous

What a cunt. My mother is in a similar situation regards to money. Her hubby is spending left right and centre, big holidays, weekends at the footy, random shopping sprees. He got a refund on health insirence from not using it in 20 years, over 40k. But my mum yesterday, wanted pork for dinner and picked up $30 worth of steak and he yelled at her for wasting money in the middle of Coles and stormed off in a huff.
This is controlling behaviour and its not right.

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Anonymous

What a jerkosaurus! What’s it to him if you did want to go shopping? It’s not as if you took the holiday to deprive him of something or to do anything actually wrong.
While he’s sleeping, I’d go out and do some MORE shopping. Stuff the miserable prick!

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Anonymous

That’s really weird.. I’m not sure why there is an issue that you bought clothes on a holiday..

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Anonymous

Were you shopping for the whole day and he was left alone on what was meant to be a couples trip? Seems like you're missing the information relating to what his thoughts are...

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Anonymous

Half the story is missing lol

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Anonymous

Is he a narcissist? It is a narcissistic trait to ruin birthdays. If he loved you he’d want to make your birthday as special as you 😘 You are not in the wrong. Go out and spoil yourself.

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Anonymous

he is being a wanker! I shop no matter where I am, and as long as it's not the only thing you are wanting to do he is being childish. sounds like there is more at play does he have the same freedom to spend money? do you shop all the time and it's generally an issue?
if there is nothing else going on ask him what's going on? I would be pissed and do what I want, but have also been know to be a hot head and too stubborn so might not be good advice. Enjoy the break it might be a man tanty, leave him to nap and go and get a cocktail 🍹

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Anonymous

What a selfish toddler tantrum throwing git!!

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Anonymous

Wtf??!!! That was my first reaction to your story. I reread it thinking I missed something. Even if it wasn’t your birthday why is it bad to go do some shopping? Isn’t that what holidays are for??? You’re husband is way out of line here. I’m really sorry this happened for you.
Now - send him a message his reaction is childish and over the top. Leave. Shop. Have a nice meal and a glass of wine and enjoy yourself.
And.... HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!

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Anonymous

Is this the sort of thing he does often? I'm confused about what he's actually mad at? When I'm somewhere new I always take the opportunity to buy clothes because its usually something different to where I live, doesn't mean its the only reason to go on holiday? And so what if it is.
I would say he's mad about something else, and is just grasping at straws.

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