Hey Ladies. Has any one here moved for their partners work?
Here's my situation: I've been with my partner coming up 6 years. I have 2 kids that aren't his. We both work - me from home and him for a big brand company. We currently live week to week. We have debts, rent, bills, cars and everything else everyone has.
He has been offered a position in a remote town within the company with more pay (not by much) but also rural expenses on top of that. He has a 5 year goal of buying our own house and thinks taking this position will help us achieve that goal.
Now he either takes this position, we all move to a remote town where rent prices are 3 x more and the same for living expenses. Uproot the kids (at the detrement of their mental health aswell) to a town we have never been to and the reputation is not that great either.
Or he goes alone, he pays rent and living expenses and we stay and pay rent and living expenses which I don't see how that would get us ahead with 2 x rent + 2 x living expenses. He is only allowed 2 x a year paid flight's home so we would only see him maybe 4 weeks a year.
He is 100% certain this is the only way to get ahead and achieve the 5 year plan and has pretty much packed his bags and signed the dotted lines. He's going and it's now up to me to decide if we go with him, or we stay behind.
Am I being unreasonable in thinking that either scenarios won't get us ahead or is he being selfish and not thinking this through properly? What would you do?