I have 3 pre-teen children who have been living with me during the weeks, then visiting their father for regular weekends. Around 11 months ago, their father stopped taking the children for their weekend visits, as he didn't like that I said no to a change that he was bullying me into. I requested on multiple occasions to discuss the matters so that we could arrange regular care of the children again, but he refused to. He went 10 months without any visits with our children.
I finally was able to arrange mediation with him, but only to learn that he is about to embark on a 5 - 10 year road trip around Australia with his new partner and their 2 young children, as of September this year. He will be leaving our children with me full-time. He has suggested that they visit him along his journey maybe twice a year, if it is in his budget and ability to transport them to wherever he is. He has started seeing the children for some weekends again, but the children are struggling with their emotions between visits. They are absolutely devastated that their dad is taking off like this and won't be spending any regular time with them. Essentially he won't be returning until our children are adults. I have been taking our children to counselling and will continue to do so. They keep asking why he is doing this to them. The father hasn't left yet, so I am sure their emotions will become stronger when he does.
The father has also been working hard to pay as little child support to my children as possible. He has been falsely making up 'school expenses' and reporting them to child support to be in lieu of paying child support (to note, I pay all expenses, including all school expenses). He declares as little income as possible due to running his own business. Overall, I don't care about the money, but I care deeply that he is working hard to not support our children in any form.
What I am seeking here is help on how to look after my children and I, as we enter a full-time living arrangement together. Are there any avenues for financial support in a situation like this? The father won't be working regularly while he is travelling, so we will be on our own with all finances. Also, has anyone found any useful resources or groups for solo-parenting? I have had a 10 month taste, but I am about to enter it for ... well, ever. ... There goes dating ever again!!
Thank you <3