Premature ejaculation?

Anonymous

Premature ejaculation?

How long is healthy sex supposed to last? I have been with my husband for 11 years, from the start to the finish our sex takes about 30 seconds to a minute max, it has always been this way.
Would this indicate premature ejaculation? I feel like I am missing out

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Anonymous

You are missing out. Funnily enough i just read about this the other day. Most people say about 15-30 minutes is ideal for them. Studies say average is actually about 4-11 minutes (from insertion to ejaculation).
However Im not sure what to do, im sure google has advice, try going on top first?

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Anonymous

15-30 minutes? That is too long for me. I think some people have a porno expectation of their own sex life.

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Anonymous

Yes agree the actual average is much shorter, and many people parents especially will prefer a quickie.
But I feel for this lady, one minute every time would be really frustrating.

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Anonymous

This was my husband last night. I had barely sat on it then he exploded everywhere. I was just getting started 😥. It's because we foreplayed. Foreplay and its over before it begins. We have a numbing gel we usually use on him otherwise every time it will be like that. The numb gel allows him to last aprox 7 to 10 mins. Only side effect is his orgasms aren't as poweful due to the desensitisation. So just use the tiniest pea sized amount.

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Anonymous

Usually it’s 2-10 minutes for us, with some stopping for 30 seconds or so and then going again if he’s close!

But other times, 30 seconds or so.

He gets me off with foreplay first so I’m not missing out :)

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Anonymous

Is there too much foreplay going on? If I get him too excited before hand he goes very quickly, if it's just all about me then he goes a bit longer. I actually really like quick sex and HATE when it goes longer than about 5 minutes. I can orgasm vaginally really quickly if I've been properly prepared before hand so once I've gone I'm done. Sometimes I get a second one in but not often. I would make foreplay more about you and less about him and hopefully you can meet in the middle somewhere!

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Anonymous

This is without foreplay

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Anonymous

For us, The usual is between 15-45 mins. Never been quicker than 15.

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Anonymous

For us it depends if it is a quicky before kids wake from naps or before he goes to work at night. A quick for us is 2-5 minutes without foreplay. Or we can go as long as 20 minutes, changing positions a few times also without foreplay. Foreplay adds another 5-10 minutes.

Has yoru Husband been to a doctor? He may need to or he needs to give you lots of foreplay and get you off first

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Anonymous

30 seconds every time is too early. Especially if it's without foreplay. I don't know how u lasted 11 years without addressing it. On the rare occasion, if its been too long between, or we've been very cheeky with lots of foreplay, my husband will go within 30 seconds. And he gets very annoyed with it when that happens. But we always start with a lot of foreplay. Husband won't even start intercourse until I have orgasmed at least once from foreplay. Actual Intercourse lasts on average 5-15 mins. Have had times where it's been marathons that last an hour or more. Speak to your husband about seeing a dr. There could be many things they can help him with. Or breathing exercises.

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Anonymous

My husband is like this too. But he always makes me orgasm during foreplay, then he might stop and start intercourse if he feels close and we do more foreplay until he or I have had enough and then he goes for it.
I find if I'm on top he goes quicker too as he can't control it.

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Anonymous

We don’t do foreplay I don’t like all the touching , with us it all depends if we need a quickie or we could go on for 45 mins. It’s frustrating on both sides as I’m sure he feels terrible please speak to him and then find ways to work around did . Will it help if he maybe gets off by a bj first then he is less sensitive and more relaxed before he starts penetration? Or the only other way is to get you off first with foreplay oral or a toy

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Anonymous

This is my life, I am at the point where I don’t even want to have sex because it isn’t worth it. You can have all the toys in the world but they don’t feel the same as the real thing 😢

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Anonymous

You are missing out hun.
My ex husband would just penetrate me and cum immediately, less than 2 seconds, disappointing and he wouldn’t admit there was a problem or seek help.
My partner now will last anywhere from 30 mins - 1hr (sometimes it’s exhausting)

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