My ex partner and me have been separated for 18 months now. Issue i have is he is trying to force me out of my 3 kids lives, they live with him at first due to me having to leave and couch surf due to dv against me then they made the decision to stay with him as he is the fun parent. This weekend just gone I have received paperwork of him alledging that I have threatened to harm my children and as a result he wants a no contact dvo.
He has called cops on me everytime I have had the kids longer than he likes he is quite happy to take money for child support and I pay in full for any extras. I call everyday but he listens to all calls or times then and demands kids hang up thats if he even let's them answer. He has blocked my number on my daughters phone and won't give me my sons new phone number, basically goes out of his way to cut me out.
I have started the process for custody but it seems like noone is on my side the cops can't do anything due to no custody paperwork and he has/is using our local charities playing the victim so they are helping him move against.
How do I keep my mental health in check when all I want to do is scream and die at thought of him taking my kids away. This man tore me down our whole relationship and just when I thought I was free he has started a fresh hell using my kids.
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I went through similar, it's parental alienation. Start with mediation, always ask for proof of everything he's claiming. Even go to the doctor and get a full medical, drug test, mental health, the lot. Keep all contact through text or email and record all conversations with the kids. Write everything down. If you can afford to get a lawyer. Good luck, this is the most heart breaking thing to go through and if he succeeds it will feel like you have lost your kids. You will mourn them like they have died but nobody will have pity for you. See a counsellor too. Let your kids know every day that you love them, if contact is cut do it via public social media. He will fill their heads with rubbish to turn them away from you and use them against you, all the while he will make himself look like he didnt have anything to do with them not wanting anything to do with you. There are a few face book groups for alienation but unfortunately many of them don't like to believe that men do it too, the best group I have found is Eeny Meenie Minie Mo or search for Amanda Sillars Parental Alienation and you should find links. Keep your head high and don't bow to his level xxx
Thank you yes im documenting as much as I can, i do make contact via social media when im not blocked there too, unfortunately they are starting to turn away from me and im in councilling but it feels like they just agree sometimes without understanding. Im terrified that come Thursday a judge will believe his lies and I'll lose them.
To clear it up it was dv against me