A few questions if I may?-
1. My daughter goes to high school next year. Where do I get a “cool” “in style” lunchbox?
2. Said daughter (she’ll be 12 in Feb), is PESTERING the absolute crap out of me, and has been for months, to bleach the underneath of her hair and dye it one of those wash out live colours. I think she’s too young but is she? I don’t know what to do?
3. What age is appropriate to start eye brow waxes?
Thankyou ladies xx
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1. Get a pack of brown paper bags. That's it. Don't push lunchboxes.
2. It's just hair 🤷♀️
3. At any age she wants. It's her body and her choice. She can decide for herself something as simple as an eyebrow wax.
Lol. Her body her choice yeah? But financially the parents pay for her requests . 🙄.
Her body, her choice when she can pay for her own dyes and waxing. That shit aint cheap.
The hair could be a once off for a Christmas present.
She could do chores to earn the money for her eyebrows, I can get mine done professionally for $15 and they only need doing once a month (and I'm a pretty hairy person lol). I've even had them done for $5 at my local TAFE when things were tight.
I actually spend more on my teenaged son's monthly grooming needs with his razors and haircuts than I do my eyebrow waxes.
Having suffered through high school with fucked up eyebrows because I didn't know how to pluck/shape them properly and my mum also had this "why should I pay for it?" attitude, it really impacted my self esteem, I was often mocked about my brows and 20 years later, my eyebrows don't grow in some spots making them noticeably asymmetrical.
Either way, OP doesn't seem fussed nor was she asking about the financial side 🤷♀️
If I saw a high schooler using a lunchbox I'd think I'd slid into an alternate universe. Might just be where I live, and it has been a while since I worked at the school.
IMO bleach would be off the table until she were 18, moved out of home or working fulltime. Whichever came first.
Eyebrows, when ever she wants to. I'd have her earn the money for it though by doing some additional chores.
I agree with all you have said here one hundred percent. Except the lunch box thing .
My son is in year 11 and still loves his lunch box. Who wants squashed sandwiches and crushed yogurts in a school bag among heavy classroom books? Most of his yr 11 classmates use lunch boxes for this very reason
So you disagree that if I saw a high schooler using a lunch box that I'd believe I'd slid into an alternate universe?
I don't really think you can?
Glad for you your kid loves his lunch box, but I don't think you get to disagree with my personal experiences.
Especially when I've already said that it may well be due to the area where I live and our high school (which I both attended and worked at). Bit of a bizarre comment to make.
Oh dear... get her to a hair dresser! Don’t let her ruin her hair with home jobs. Oh Lordy.
I’d go plain... or just let her pick it.
Lunchbox - My son is happy to use a plain cooler bag type of thing, they don't typically take their whole lunch container out to eat like the do in primary school - they usually just grab the item/s they wanna eat and go.
(I will say don't waste your time and money on re-usable sandwich or snack containers, you'll never see them again. It's not the most sustainable thing but disposable packaging seems to be preferable so they don't need to return stuff to their lockers).
Hair - I'd be fine with that as long as the colour has washed out before term begins next year and the remaining bleached section doesn't conflict with the school's dress code.
Eyebrows - If and when they're bothering her.
-Nobody in high school uses a lunch box.
-It’s only hair, take her to the hair dressers and get it bleached properly.
-The are her eyebrows, when ever she says she wants to start getting them done. Take her somewhere decent so she doesn’t try and do them herself and do a terrible job, having to turn up to high school with botched eyebrows is pretty embarrassing
So 'nobody' in high school uses a lunch box? My childs whole year level do. But they are the cooler bag type.
Still a lunch box.
You planning on commenting on every comment just to disagree?
Yep. Because its not true that 'nobody' takes L/Boxes in high school..
I work at a high school, most students have lunch boxes,even the kids who regularly get tuckshop. Some will even opt to carry them around apposed to putting them in their bag.
A lot have lunch boxes (and pencil cases) from smiggle (yes they still love smiggle, even the boys 😅)
And I would check with your child's high-school on uniform requirements in regard to her hair, unless it's just for the holidays then I say go for it 😉
I think you must work in a very strange high school because I work in one too and I have not seen one kid willingly choose to walk around with their lunch box as opposed to leaving it in their bags.
Probably depends on the school.
At my son's school they aren't allowed in the corridors (where the lockers are) during break times due to little so and so's trying to break into lockers looking for phones and laptops, so students have to take whatever they need with them.
Some kids take their whole bags, some just take their lunch box and some just grab their sandwich so they don't have to carry anything around.
By my son's account, no one really gives a shit if someone is using a lunchbox or not, I don't really think its the social sin people are making it out to be 😂
Nobody is saying they're a social sin, they just aren't practical for high school.
I don't think it's strange, probably just normal for this area. I know high-schools in other states that provide hot lunches so students don't require a lunchbox. But I definitely don't think it's a big issue, she should just do her 😊
My high schoolers hate lunch boxes, if their school has lockers it just makes it a hassle because they either have to hang onto their lunch box or put it back wasting precious lunch time, if they have to cart their bags everywhere then they are usually full of crap and a lunchbox takes up too much space. If you can afford to buy lunch that is the best way.
So their lunch is squished in full school bags? How do they store their lunches in their bag then?
They must get tuckshop every day
They buy it. They have a few snack things in their bag like nut bars and stuff like that if they get hungry on the bus but that's it.
Let your daughter decide what to take to school. A lot of high schoolers don't use lunch boxes.
As for the hair...I'd just let her. She's almost 12...its not like she's 7.
Eyebrows...whenever she wants to.
My mum is a hairdresser and started with subtle highlights when I was 12, as I got older we experimented with many different colours.
Bleach is damaging to the hair so if you do agree take her to the hairdresser. However, all the shampoos and after care is expensive. I'd be sitting her down and asking her to financially contribute to the hair and eyebrow waxes through chores.
Lunch box well id let her decide that.
I'm kind of surprised at the "high school kids don't use lunchboxes" thing.
When I was in high school, most of us used some kind of box/bag to keep our lunch in. Only the rich, stuck up kids who were given money everyday didn't and they usually were the ones to make fun of us lunchbox peasants 🙄😂
My son is also in high school and the majority of them use lunch boxes too, his whole school is actually quite environmentally aware so the uncool thing to do is use disposable stuff.
My high school kids buy lunch every day and they don't look down on kids that take lunch, they are forever buying their friends things. I see it as supporting the school canteen, they are usually their own little business and need support to survive, many smaller schools struggle to keep their canteens viable. And it's easier for me my husband and I both work 12 hour days plus I don't have to worry about having enough lunch stuff all the time. You're not snobby just because you have $10 to buy your lunch every day.
Ok...good for you I guess?!
I never said your kids are snobs for buying lunch everyday, I was merely reminiscing about the arseholes I went to school with who'd call us scabs or povos for needing to take lunch from home in a lunchbox - they very much did look down on us for it and realistically, there are probably some kids who still hold those kind of values.
My overall point was that it's absurd to not have some kind of container to transport/protect her lunch out of fear it being "uncool", because a lot of kids (especially 7th graders) will have a lunchbox. They might not flaunt it but they probably have one.
You kind of have implied that every kid that bought lunch everyday is a rich snob
The only intent behind my comment was to let the OP know that a lot of kids do use a lunchbox, I didn't want her to feel like she's obligated to buy her kid's lunch everyday because that's not a feasible option for a lot of people.
I really wasn't trying to insinuate anything about anyone, I was just drawing on my own experience at high school (which wasn't that long ago as I'm only 31).
I do apologise if it came across as personal attack because it really wasn't meant that way.
My son started high school this year, he takes a lunch box.
We never even discussed it, I just assumed that’s what you take your lunch in.
He hasn’t said anything, so it must be okay?
I also let him get tuck shop sometimes, when I haven’t done the shopping lol
1- no such thing as a cool lunch box
2- it’s just hair, it’s not what you want to do, let her express herself
3- it’s only appropriate when she wants to do it
She’s not getting a tattoo, don’t carry on like she is, it’s just hair