Today my 5 yr old son was dropped off by my ex's missus. She pulled me aside and told me that my son had been in her soul care for 3 days after she kided his dad out for his reoccurring drinking problem. She told me he hasn't been coping and would often drink himself stupid, leave her to do the all parenting and often became very disruptive, implusive (drink driving), depressed (to the point he slit his wrists), and verbally abusive.
A little history of why my sons father and i split is because he abused ice while caring for the children we had with others and together. He got off it cold Turkey but because verbally and physically abusive, depressed (tried to commit suicide in ny presents) I then grabbed my kids and left!
Since then I thought he had become much better and his missus was helping him become a good parent again and I even seen it in my son behaviour and agreed to give him him 50/50 arrangement as everything was going so well.. But now to have been pulled aside by her saying she is going to walk away because she cant deal with him and his behaviour since becoming an alcoholic. From what she had been telling me today, she is going through the same things I did 3 1/2 years ago, now im fearful for my son's safety! How can he parent our son if he's drunk all the time?? I am not wrong to be worried but how serious could this be? How can I prove this is happening? We have court orders and I cant brake them without a reasonable excuse which I have BUT have no evidence of! What do I do??
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He cant. you report this. You dont send him back. He gets supervised visits if he bothers at all. His gf should have called you and returned the child, but its ok, lesson learned, write down everything she told you. And who dropped him, what time.
You don’t send them back.
You ask his ex if she’d be prepared to write a statement.
Let him take you back to court. He probably won’t cause he is too out of his mind. If he does take you to court then you ask for supervised visits.
And any time he demands the kids, you demand he show a clean drug and alcohol test. Before and after. He'll probably go away on his own knowing he cant do that.
This is harsh but I actually can't believe you are asking this question. Your son's safety is first and foremost the most important thing! I think this situation is a REASONABLE EXCUSE to break the court orders. Make phone calls today to go back to court and do not send your child to him again. If the girlfriend has come to you to advise all of this, I'm sure she'd be willing to back you up with a statement.
You need to get his mrs to ring up and report him and tell them she has been the main carer and his issues and have them give him to you full time. Do it assp!! Report him now and get her back up. Do not send him back. Protect him! Stuff the court orders do what is right by your son.