Hi mums,
I'm in the latter stages of agreeing on property settlement with my ex. We have a 6yo son together who is with me 4 days a week. My question is around what sort of agreements you have in place re splitting out of the ordinary costs that might crop up. I work three days a week and make a modest income, while he earns five times more than me (AFTER child support is paid) and lives VERY comfortably. Child support, combined with my income allows me to just cover necessities like housing/food/clothes/basic school needs. We have a strained relationship and my concern is around negotiating larger costs that might crop up in future like high school (he wants our son to go to a private school, which I dont think I can afford) or large (out of the ordinary) medical bills (God forbid!!). Is the general consensus that everything should be halved considering he pays child support? I realise legally that's all the help I'm entitled to, but I'm just keen to hear about arrangements others might have in place? Thank you.
Splitting costs with ex
Splitting costs with ex
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Some say that child support is the total of their obligation
Child support is all he is obligated to pay, it is based on both your incomes, so reflects his higher amount.
Don’t worry about what if’s like high school, he’s six, deal with that later.
Most of us are in the same boat, you just to have make it work.
My son requires a lot of medical stuff, most of it covered in the public system.
He pays child support, and if his income is as big as you say then you would be getting a decent amount, plus what you earn yourself. So everything else should be split 50/50. If you can’t afford certain things maybe look at up skilling and getting a job that pays more
Geez don’t worry about the mean Mums! Yes if he earns that much he should really contribute to extras so try to get that written into an agreement/orders etc You may want to do mediation to sort it out. I would recommend trying to make an agreement that the interests of the child come first no matter the relationship between the parents. Just be honest and say that you can only covers the basic costs and if the child or he wants multiple extra curricular activities/ sports, private school, private medical treatment etc then there will have to be an extra contribution as needed.