I want to quit my job.

Anonymous

I want to quit my job.

In the current situation I know I should be very grateful to have a job. But, I hate my job. It’s not the work I do but 2 ladies I work with.
I’m new to this company and only started 3 weeks before lockdown. Then we continued working, from home, but the only contact I received was aggressive emails outlining all my errors.
The nastiness is not coming from my boss but my colleagues. My boss is aware what is going on but won’t do anything about it. I’ve spoken to HR but it’s really up to my boss to address their bitching.
I don’t bite back,
I’m more qualified than them and I think they may be threatened. I work hard and don’t say a lot, im here to do my job.
I’m the second person they have done this to but they are valued so their nastiness to newcomers is overlooked.
The other lady blew her stack and left.
I don’t bite back. I’m just hoping it improves but it’s not looking good.
I hate going to work, I yell at my kids and I just want to leave. Sunday nights are the worst. I’m looking at further study or other jobs, any excuse to leave.

Posted in:  Mental Health

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Anonymous

I would professionally pull them up on it. Send a group email to them all including your boss and the relevant HR highlighting the behaviour and you wish it to stop, as a new employee you feel you are not learning or growing as much as you like and you would appreciate constructive criticism rather than negativity. State that it is affecting your mental health.

I think people like this like to prove that you are wrong when you try and pull them up on their negativity, even if its a fake nice it does make your day a bit better! I really hope things improve for you.

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Anonymous

I have also started a new job right when COVID restrictions kicked. It's been quite difficult to work from home in a new position and without having the opportunity to receive proper training or develop relationships with other coworkers. So I can empathise with what you're navigating.

I think you should definitely address the issues. Things can be very easily misconstrued over email though. Is there an option to pick up the phone and let them know you're doing your best under these new work conditions (WFH)and explain how their emails are perceived? Sometimes talking it out can be more productive than emails going back and forth. It might also put them back in their place (maybe they're keyboard warriors). Emails give a sense of false security and authority. Dont play into their game, follow up their emails with a phone call and I bet they'll get tired of that very quickly.

Then, if no improvement, raise the issue formally via email with HR and your boss so they are both held accountable to action your complaint. If they don't, then that's your sign that it's not a supportive or fair workplace and it isn't somewhere you want to be.

I think you should hang in there for a while longer though. It's also a very testing time for most people, everyone's more on edge at the moment due to the way COVID has impacted us and all the uncertainty looming over our heads. This is in no way an excuse for their behaviour though, but I wonder if things will improve when you're no longer working from home?

You'll get lots of advice on here, but at the end of the day you need to go with your gut feeling and do what's best for you and your family xo

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