In the current situation I know I should be very grateful to have a job. But, I hate my job. It’s not the work I do but 2 ladies I work with.
I’m new to this company and only started 3 weeks before lockdown. Then we continued working, from home, but the only contact I received was aggressive emails outlining all my errors.
The nastiness is not coming from my boss but my colleagues. My boss is aware what is going on but won’t do anything about it. I’ve spoken to HR but it’s really up to my boss to address their bitching.
I don’t bite back,
I’m more qualified than them and I think they may be threatened. I work hard and don’t say a lot, im here to do my job.
I’m the second person they have done this to but they are valued so their nastiness to newcomers is overlooked.
The other lady blew her stack and left.
I don’t bite back. I’m just hoping it improves but it’s not looking good.
I hate going to work, I yell at my kids and I just want to leave. Sunday nights are the worst. I’m looking at further study or other jobs, any excuse to leave.
I want to quit my job.
I want to quit my job.
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I have been in this kind of situation.
I told my husband that i hated work, he suggested that I look for work while I stayed there and see how it went. A few more days past and I went to him and just said I can't keep going to work anymore.
We both agreed that it would be best for me to leave and then keep looking for new work in the meantime.
Sometimes your mental health is worth more.
Also, your boss should be doing more. Workplace bullying is getting out of control.
if "HR" are doing nothing, find out who the hr manager is, I would escalate it to them, and cc your boss, articulate the situation and that you would like to be comfortable at work and not feel intimidated. By law they have to listen. Your boss might not know how to handle but it has to be managed.
Alternatively if it's not worth the fight look for another job, I would say don't quit if you need to work to survive as the employment market is the worst. Only you know if you can hang in there
I wanted out of my job before covid lockdown. I want enjoying it but during downtime we reassessed priorities. When everything opened back up I told them I wasn't returning. I had hubbys support and we would get through til I found another job. He said I'm not happy so why do that to myself and he was surprised I stuck it out that long. I applied for the perfect job and got it. Much happier, new adventures, more money and more time for my family.
You have to do what is right for you. Start looking to see what else is out there, talk to your partner and make the right decision for your mental health and your family. Change is scary but can be good. Good luck xxx
Sorry you are experiencing this. I work in HR and was bullied in the past by co workers, and still am now at times. But after a secondment elsewhere, a new manager and keeping my head High and not stooping, I am well respected and a valued team member.
My first suggestion is any emails they send that make you uncomfortable, cc’ your direct manager into your response. Be polite, and if you have the guts, use up front communication and say how their email upset you with the tone, and ask for constructive feedback on how to improve, in consultation with the manager. A good kicker can be “sorry I didn’t quiet get it correct, I am still getting a handle on the exact processes of the company, can you assist me to make sure I do it better next time, if that’s ok with you boss” Hopefully they will get the idea that you aren’t being pushed around, and still look for something else, and if you really hate it, cut back hours, look at other solutions other than just walking away. And ask yourself, if it wasn’t for them, would you stay?
Sorry you are experiencing this. I work in HR and was bullied in the past by co workers, and still am now at times. But after a secondment elsewhere, a new manager and keeping my head High and not stooping, I am well respected and a valued team member.
My first suggestion is any emails they send that make you uncomfortable, cc’ your direct manager into your response. Be polite, and if you have the guts, use up front communication and say how their email upset you with the tone, and ask for constructive feedback on how to improve, in consultation with the manager. A good kicker can be “sorry I didn’t quiet get it correct, I am still getting a handle on the exact processes of the company, can you assist me to make sure I do it better next time, if that’s ok with you boss” Hopefully they will get the idea that you aren’t being pushed around, and still look for something else, and if you really hate it, cut back hours, look at other solutions other than just walking away. And ask yourself, if it wasn’t for them, would you stay?
Thank you all for your advice. I did resign and now still work for the same company, casually and from home. I’m now studying and have another casual job. I am just hanging on by a thread as the issues are still there and since my post a new team member a has started and left... I’m assuming for the same reasons as me. I