Has any one else feel like they have lost there sense of who you are when you become a mother. I feel like I don’t really have a purpose at the moment and I am just going about my day and not really feel much. I have a wonderful hubby who works full time and I am a stay at home mum with 2 school aged kids. I seem lost and not sure how to get me back again.
Losing myself in motherhood.
Losing myself in motherhood.
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Your kids are at school so start doing something for you each day. Go for a walk after school drop off. Speak to your local library to see what groups meet there, to see if there is a group you might be interested in joining. Speak to your kids teacher’s to see if you can volunteer in the classrooms (you may need to get a working with children check done). Is there something you want to study? Are you able to find a part time job? Can you catch up with friends for a coffee or lunch a couple times a month? Find something that you enjoy and do it just for you. When my youngest was a baby I was seeing a psychologist for PND among other things. She told me I had to find 10 minutes a day where I focussed only on myself, with no interruptions from anyone. As the kids got older I was able to extend the length of time. Now that they are teenagers I can tell them to go away and not come near me until a certain time. I usually only do that if I’m not feeling well and need a sleep, though.
Thank you for answering
I already volunteer at my kids school and I go for a walk after drop off.
I don’t really have any friends...I did have but she got in with some other people who she clicked with mire and then ghosted me so only going to try so hard with the effort I put in with her.
Single mum who works full time time here.
Had a hard day at work, oh to be you.
Your kids are at school, you don’t need money, the options are endless.
Study, hobby, start a business, volunteer, take up a sport, you can literally do anything.
You’re in a unique situation, enjoy it, find your passion.
Thank for such kind words....not
I worked full time for over 15 yrs in child care to be able to do what I am doing now. All I asked was had anyone else felt this way I did not ask to be put down for feeling this way. We are all trying to survive this thing called motherhood but again thank you for your kind words.
Mother’s should build each other up not tear each other down.
15 years lol must be due for retirement?
Work? Study? Volunteer?
Your kids are at school so time to get a job I’d say?
Is there a particular reason to stay home still? I looooooved being a stay at home Mum but as a single parent I had no choice but to work again. Being home with no kids would be very mundane and repetitive- can’t be good for you so I’m not surprised you feel abit lost.