Hello,
To cut a long story short my sibling has stolen very expensive jewellery that was gifted to me for my wedding from one of my elderly parents. I stumbled upon this in a pawn shop window by complete coincidence, other family members have also had jewellery etc go missing over a number of years. It was confirmed by Police that it was my sibling, this sibling bullied me growing up a lot, they also threatened my life as an overreaction to a comment I'd made about their wife leaving them a few years ago but got away with it, despite going to court.
He/she has stolen from our elderly parent, now they want to back track and get me to say I found my stuff, I am not going to lie to Police. They have returned though our parent one major piece but Police have the other on hold, this sibling lives a secret kind of life and is distant emotionally from me. They have a bad gambling addiction (could be another addiction but unsure) but won't admit it.
I have anxiety around this and want to also stand up for myself but am worried that my parent will be angry with me despite having had their own things stolen also and worry in case my sibling does anything to hurt me/my property.
My sibling has not admitted anything and made up a flimsy lie to Police and blamed it on their teen daughter (I know this is a 100% lie) and has not shown any remorse nor contacted me direct to apologise.
What's the right thing to do here? I feel torn but am also sick to think I have a thief in my family. Please help! #feelingstressedout
Do I get my family member charged for theft?
Do I get my family member charged for theft?
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9 Replies
I would continue to stand up for yourself, what is right and also the daughter.
It’s very sad that they’ve blamed their daughter and it’s going to develop resentment from her towards him.
They need to face the consequences for their actions it’s as simple as that.
In this context, definitely would have them charged. What a scumbag. See about getting cameras around your parents place if there's not already, and putting valuable things in a safe. I have no idea about this side of things but could you also see if you can have him charged on behalf of your parent for their things? I would also hate to see this guy get power over their finances, do what you have to do to make sure that does not happen. Your parent needs someone to look out for them whether they know it or not.
Have them charged but even if you don’t, I’d never have this person in my house again.
Charge them. They need consequences. I dont think police would actually stop charges since they would have to have gone to the pawn shop to seize the items?
They can if I drop it and my sibling buys it back and returns to me.. other people's stuff probably long gone.
Stand up for yourself and charge her. This is disgusting and it won’t stop it you don’t do something about it now. If people can’t see why you have done it then that is their problem. I would charge her! Don’t hesitate you are absolutely doing the right thing.
Charge her bloody hell she has blamed her own teenager for god sake. What a low life. Charge her so everyone else can see it isn’t her teen in future. She needs to learn a good hard lesson. She deserves it.
As soon as she mentioned she blames the teen, I was like yep, charge them. Why should the teen feel like a thief when she isn’t. It’s not fair.
Honestly. If they are stealing jewellery, the chances are they are stealing more than that. Probably taking from your parents to. I’ve seen it happen with friends. Started off the same way. Stole items and then they realised it was more than that. They went onto online banking and had a really good look and they had been helping themselves to their BANK ACCOUNTS!
I feel for the teenager. It’s not fair they are copping the blame, when it’s not them at all. Why should they feel like a thief when they aren’t.
Have them charged. It’s not a one off, they don’t care and they won’t Even admit they’ve been caught out.
I’d give your parents a heads up and tell them that your having them charged, he didn’t a role model for his teen at all and that’s not right.
Be there for the teen. He clearly isn’t.