Hi I'm stuggleing my step son why lives with us full time smokes weed and will not stop I've tried everything he has suffers mental health for some time due his mother. He lived with us for a few years then took off after getting told off for weed then after year he moved back in with me dad n our 3 children. Now both of us have tried to tell him the rules n that we expect him to stick to it but he just won't we came to compromise with him where he could do it of weekend only has nothing else was working.
Now my childhood is pretty checked with dad's drug use etc and I hate all drugs I'm at the point it's coming between me n dad we have been together for 12 years but i just don't feel dad is really supporting me in this he said he told him it had to stop or it was going to cost him his relationship with me but I dont know if he really did send it. Dad seems to have a issue with standing his ground with becouse last time he did the son tool off to his mother n wouldn't talk to dad at all.
Son is 17 but how I do get past this feeling how do I deal with it do I just give up his clearly not going to stop I need advice as today I'm stuggleing bad and due covid 19 I can't go out alone n get rid of this feeling. I don't even know myself today so please be nice any advice would really help me. Just a side note I love this kid like his my own but his pushing me away by showing me no repect at all
Step son doing weed
Step son doing weed
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Do you have other children who live with you?
Have you investigated if he is self medicating? Are there deeper issues at play here?
Yes 3 children 10 8 n 4.
I do think that is why he is doing it he has be on a number of other meds and non work great for him
Would he see a psychologist?
No he won't his done that before n it changed nothing he was worse then trying to kill his self a number of time
Your issue isn’t the drugs it’s his mental health. Unfortunately many people are very poorly educated on Cannabis usage and tend to be in one of two camps - it’s not dangerous at all or are completely against it. If you are saying he is on other drugs for mental health my guess is one of those drugs could hold some pretty bad contradictions with cannabis use and that’s the discussion I’d be having with his father. Coupled with the well researched and proven poor outcomes for the developing brain.
Unfortunately your battle has to be with his father and not him.
our family supports responsible use of cannabis however we speak very openly with our children about the good and bad.
He knows all the risk I've done this. Dad is not against it but dose not want son doing but also will stand his ground n stop son at all his too worried he lose his son alot has gone on from his ex n she has stopped 3 other children from seeing n having a relationship with their dad. I understand that but I dont feel like my feeling are even givin thought in any of this.
If he’s under lock down like the rest of us how is he still getting it. I’m sorry but this is your house too. If you don’t want drugs in there - find them and flush them. The fines for having illicit drugs in the house with minors are ridiculous- no thank you not on my watch. Time for you to stand up very strong with his dad. You are his parents not his friends.
Well from what I can tell he don't bring it into the house I've never found it on him. But he says his going for a walk which atm we all are allowed too then he comes home smashed his girlfriend smokes it so she could be holding it n meeting up with him. I know the law and I don't allow this to happen in my children's home.
He knows all the risk I've done this. Dad is not against it but dose not want son doing but also will stand his ground n stop son at all his too worried he lose his son alot has gone on from his ex n she has stopped 3 other children from seeing n having a relationship with their dad. I understand that but I dont feel like my feeling are even givin thought in any of this.
Your house your rules. Tough love tell him to move out if you don’t like it. If dad doesn’t like it then he goes too.
I smoked weed for many years, I really struggled to get off it.
Many people tried to get me to stop, but I had to make that choice myself.
I moved towns, separated myself from anyone else that did it, I got a very mild prescription from the drs to help me sleep for a couple of weeks after.
I'm not sure how you make someone quit. Perhaps a discussion with him about what he wants from life, does he want a good relationship, job, kids one day? Does he want to quit? Maybe it's more about facilitating an environment for him where he is empowered to stop rather then forced?