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I can’t believe what I have done. I feel so guilty and ashamed. How can I come clean? I have two children. One from a previous relationship and one with my husband. In the midst of an argument I told him I took out my IUD birth control as I just didn’t want the conflict and I knew this would make him happy. From then, he has been thinking we have been trying for a baby, all the while I still have the IUD. I feel like the most selfish, shit person in the world. I can’t believe I’ve done this. What do I do?
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Talk to him? Or get it removed ? Do you want another baby ? Or no?
If yes.. book in with dr and get it removed.
If no.. talk to him and say you’ve changed your mind and would like to go back on birth control
Firstly, I think that contraceptive probably needs to stay put, at least for the immediate future while you get your head around things.
Secondly and I mean this with absolute sincerity so please don't think I'm trying to offend you, make assumptions or imply anything about your relationship but are you okay? Are you safe?
I may be way off the mark so please say if I am, I'm just detecting some genuine fear in your post and I'm a little worried for you.
Hopefully someone else will have some better advice, I just wanted to reach out.
This, so much this. I hope this lady is ok, but I don’t think she is.
To the OP, keep the IUD in, it’s probably a good idea to seek some emotional support for yourself.
You must have been under huge pressure. Perhaps you could make an appointment with a counsellor to talk through what’s going on and make a plan for yourself.
Awe don't feel bad for being true to yourself..
If you want a solution to avoid fessing up you can always have it removed and go on an oral contraceptive until you find a way to tell him you're not ready etc its your life, your body.
Definitely keep the contraception in place. If your not in a mature enough relationship to be able to have a conversation about babies without it turning into a heated argument then you definitely shouldn’t be having babies.
I'd be keeping it in place and telling him you don't think it's a good time for another child.
On the otherside, I personally wouldn't even bother telling him. Purely because it's something so little that will cause another fight.
Why would you say you had an IUD removed just to make him happy? If you don't want babies, dont have them.