Guilt about baby number 2

Anonymous

Guilt about baby number 2

Hi ladies.
I don’t know if this is normal how I’m feeling but I would love to hear from anyone else who’s felt the same or is feeling the same.

I have a beautiful 16 month old daughter who I just love so so so much. She is our entire world and we have the most amazing bond with her.

I recently found out I’m pregnant, and as much as I’d love another baby I can’t help but feel sad. Sad that it won’t be me and her, sad that our time will be over and concerned that I won’t love another baby like I do her.

Please tell me my feelings are valid and I’m not alone.

Posted in:  Mental Health, Parenthood Guilt, Pregnancy, Baby & Toddler

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Anonymous

Congrats first of all .. I get what your saying but honestly... I felt that also about my first son .. I spent many days eating banana bread and stressing about it this is what I learnt
Your heart is soo expandable and when you hold your second you almost cry with happiness that your able to love the second just as much as the first and that is a light bulb moment .. one you will joy her till they arrive .. your fully capable of loving both equally and it really hits your heart at how much love you can hold for you babies equally .. I promise you you have nothing to fear only lots of wonderful moments ahead with both.. its totally normal to feel this way I sure did and boy I couldn't say now what life was like before no.2 actually my heart could handle 20 babies so enjoy your pregnancy and your many girl and embrace the next chapter its even more heaven than the first as your heart is bigger and 2 babies to hold and love xxx

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Anonymous

I think I had this feeling too. Now I’m looking at my 2 running around playing together and that feeling is almost forgettable. You will love the next just as much. I have 3 now and the love is equal.

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