May trigger some with similar mental health issues.. I’m so lost and confused, I don’t want to be in my marriage anymore, I’ve completely lost myself to where I’m a shell of a person and all my happiness is gone, I suffer from bipolar and have done for many years but have mainly managed to keep myself under control. I just can’t do it anymore, my husband and I have split before and I’ve jumped into a relationship quite quickly and then when it’s run it’s course I end up running back in my safety net with my husband... my kids adapt quickly but right now they know something not normal, they can see the distance between us and they can see I’m yo-yoing up and down in my moods and I don’t want to keep doing this to them.. I need to make a break once and for all, work on myself & my kids before I even think about men, get a place of my own for just me and my babies and find the happy me again... but how do I do that? How do I get the courage to leave and really fix myself? How do I tell my husband? He can be super controlling and over the top and I think that just makes my condition worse... Please help...
Mental health and wanting to get happy again
Mental health and wanting to get happy again
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Relationships & Marriage, Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression, Self Care
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I think your just doing some pretty typical Bipolar behaviour and instead on focusing on the marriage you need some pretty intensive therapy to help you from continuing doing the same path again. Speak to your psychologist and find some group support therapy in your area. Maybe some ACT, CBT or DBT is required. It’s not going to be a quick fix but it will help you develop the tools you need for healthy relationships.
Just on the kids - don’t fool yourself into thinking they are adapting quickly and coping. You are teaching them how to behave in relationships and I’m sure even you would agree it’s not healthy and not what you want for them.
Go back to your doctor for an updated mental health plan/ medication review.. Bi Polar manic episodes should be taken very seriously . Please go back to your specialist.
I don’t think you should be moving out now, I think you should get your mental health in order and then reassess things. Going it alone is hard, you need to be strong and you can do it, but get yourself right first. You may find when you’re in a better place, you won’t want to leave.
Is there anyway you can set yourself up in a little rental and work on fixing yourself while leaving you children with their farther until you are in a better head space? This way your sole focus can be on yourself and your well being then reassess when you are in a better state of mind