Earlier in the week my husband (We are separated but trying to work things out) tried to commit suicide 💔 he took a huge amount of pills & was placed in an induced coma.
I'm heart broken, numb & have so much guilt.
Is there any coming back from this? I guess I just hoping for some hope that he may be ok, that he may wake up 😥
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This is not your fault, he made a choice. What he did wasn’t right. Do not let it sit on your concience. You are not to blame. When someone makes the choice to end or attempt to end their own lives it is a sad choice. But it is no ones decision but their own. All you can do is be there for your kids if you have any and support them through this.
I’m so sorry this happened. You have to know this isn’t your fault and this is a choice he made. You probably won’t believe that, yet and you will most likely need counselling for yourself to come through this because you can’t go through life feeling guilty for something you had no control over (even if he recovers you need to get counselling).
As to wether he comes through it or not, I hope he does, but there isn’t a guarantee and the best you can do is take doctors advice on what is likely to occur.
I apologise if I'm too upfront here. I was actually the person that made the post last week looking for suicide grief support so currently living this myself.
My dad just committed suicide. This was his third and obviously final attempt.
First time around 4 years ago he was in intensive care for days (key point here is that my dad virtually poisoned himself and he woke up from it!). He was devastated when he woke up because he woke up. This one gave him the push to try and make some changes in his life.
He tried therapy, medication etc unfortunately in our case he could not achieve the relief he needed. (Keep in mind that this doesnt mean your experience will be the same)
We're obviously devastated, sad for him to have been in the mental space he was and we miss him dearly. However as cliche as it sounds, we know that this was his choice and it truly was what he wanted. We take comfort that everyday isnt a struggle for him now.
My mum is battling with the what ifs but I'm knocking them back as much as I can because she knows too that his choice has nothing to do with us and we're not to blame.
I guess I'm trying to say, I hope your husband wakes up well and takes this as the first step to confront his demons. If that is not the case maybe you can try and take some comfort in the things we have.
Sending love. I know this isnt easy xx
Just wondering how you/he are?
There has been no change in his condition. He is still in the induced coma they have found he has pneumonia hoping to try and wake him possibly the next couple of days.
I have found out that he was talking a bit when they found him. So I'm praying that this is a good sign that they got to him early and this induced coma is giving his body healing time.
Hi OP,
I see the last time you posted was 8 days ago. I’m thinking of you and hope you have had a positive outcome.
Xxoo