I am at the end!
Been with my partner for 14yrs not married have a wonderful 6yr old! Things have been rough for quite some time! We really just don't get along and don't communicate about it much either. We fight yell n scream i get called a cunt bitch whatever he has threatened to throw me up against the wall after i asked him to sleep in the other room cause he was really drunk and was being an asshole after i suggested to him that his drinking was becoming a problem, he told me thats the only way he can be home! So i asked him to sleep in the other room.
Sexually he has always had an ed problem most time foreplay is all i get and hes comes or if we make it to sex it only last literally 30seconds. I had asked him years ago to do something he bought something online didn't really stick to the program didn't work and told me he's done all he can this was probably 8 or so yrs ago then surprisingly feel preggas 😂 I've stuck around for our families sake and he is a good provider but realistically i am at my wits. A few months ago i was out with a few friends having drinks met a guy we talked and laughed had a great night hadn't had that much fun in so long! (I really wanted to go home with him we had an akward kiss and then i walked away) i feel so guilty about this but yet want more. Anywhoo 4wks ago i told my partner I'd had enough i can't keep going like this being miserable fighting or just silent i dont wanna drink with him because we just fight sexually i can't be bothered having sex with him i have lost that feeling and connection towards, i have missed all my 20s sexually. He is fifo i am mostly happy when he is away start feeling anxious the day before he comes home. After telling him that i cannot keep going like this he's begged to try anything been to the doctors to get pills (havent had sex yet my problem cause i just not feeling towards him) willing to try counselling but I'm not sure if i want to anymore things are just akward and sad!! I have let someone else into our relationship mentally we message and have a laugh havent seen eachother since that night i had never done anything like that before.
Sorry this is all over the place i really just need to vent
Think I'm Done!!
Think I'm Done!!
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Sometimes it takes meeting a perfectly healthy, nice person, or who seems to be as you don’t know him well enough yet to see what’s toxic at home. To see that there is better out there and you’re living in a miserable, loveless relationship. He’s has plenty of time to change, fuck him off.
You both sound miserable and toxic. You don’t want to have sex with him and he has to drink to be around you. You cheated, you are cheating. Leave him and let him move on to somebody faithful
It’s done and that’s ok. You don’t owe him time to work on this. If he had really wanted to work on it, he wouldn’t have waited until you were out the door. This is just his fear of change and loosing control setting in.
It’s time to move on, get yourself some counselling. Cause staying so long when you’ve been verbally abused and in such a toxic relationship really warps your mind.
It’s ok to be done sweetheart. Let it be.
It's okay to be donw with your relationship. But it isnt okay having an emotional affair. You are just as bad. Always two sides to a story. He may have some issues, also understand how hard it must be for his working away. But atleast he wasn't unfaithful like yourself.