Advice;
So I have been in my current relationship 5 years and we have two kids together, I also have a kid from previous relationship.
At the start he cheated on me etc, we had a break 2 years ago and when we got back together I found out he was talking to the same girl, he cheated with and was bringing her to qld to live with him, only didn't as we tried again.
now 2 years later, I'm unhappy, he loves choof and alcohol both I dislike unless an occasion.
our sex life is next to nothing, we don't laugh anymore, there's no romance etc.
but I'm to scared to walk away with a 5,3 & 3 month old. I'm worried I won't cope financially and worry no one will ever love me being a single mum and I'll be lonely and old
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Would it really be that bad to be single?
Loads of people are single and very very happy. Myself being one of them.
I’d rather be single the rest of my life than live the rest of my life in an unhappy relationship.
You can be happy and be single. You can afford to live and be single. You can have 7 kids and be 60 and meet someone. You can be 89 and meet someone. You can be old and not lonely.
I don’t have much advice as I have gone through something so similar that I wish I could talk to you one on on.I never had anybody to talk to that had gone through something similar and I felt so lost and lonely.My heart breaks for you.
It is possible to walk away and be a wonderful single mum but the first step is always the hardest.I wish you luck and hope things turn out well for you.
Thank you, it is very hard my mother was a single mum and I watched her struggle daily.
Im just so scared as I don't have anyone but my dad left, as mum recently passed and the family have all gone weird.
Can you honestly say, with absolute uncertainty that you aren't lonely as fuck right now in this dysfunctional, loveless relationship?
Is the booze and dope not already impacting you financially, given the inference that it's a bit on the excessive side?
Is being single so terrible that you'd be willing to trade off your happiness just so that you're not 'alone'?
Your self esteem seems to be in the toilet, so much so that you cannot see your worth! Because of that, I feel like even if you do leave this relationship you'll fall straight into a relationship with the first guy who shows you the slightest bit of positive attention, that's how red flags get overlooked, that's how this cycle continues.
So before you do anything, you really need to work on yourself. Start to realise you deserve happiness, respect, that you need to nurture other relationships as well as romantic ones.
You hit the nail right on the head!
We have been trying for years now and I just dont see it getting better, the self worth thing I agree with, its gone completely and I feel like I deserve this, mum passing in April too may not be helping.
I'm just so lost and confused
Just leave, you will figure it out. Being a single mum is way better than being with somebody that doesn’t and had obviously never loved you.
I wouldn't say they never loved me that's a bit rude of you