I’m in the process of leaving a dv relationship do I do it before Christmas or after? I’m torn for the kids as it’s so close
I’m in the process of leaving a dv relationship do I do it before Christmas or after? I’m torn for the kids as it’s so close
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You do it when it is safest to do so. Contact a DV service like 1800Respect so you can make a plan to leave as safely a possible.
Your kids would rather have there mummy safe, than have Christmas as a dysfunctional family.
Earlier the better. Theres not one good thing for them about staying, youre fooling yourself if you think anything is worth that. The less unhealthy good memories they have the easier it is to move forward and get used to the new way.
6 weeks ago I left a dv situation. I wish I had not waited.
He hit me and my daughter he threatened to kill us. Leave when it's safe honey.
Don't wait for the worst.
It's been 6 weeks. I have my own house.. I am paying $230 @ week on a $650 house.
I chose it.
I have all the furniture and I am so peaceful.
I know why we stay.. I know how hard it is to leave but stay safe sister. Xxxx
Leave whenever safe.
If that happened to be the day before Christmas, do so.
Your kids will have more Christmases if this one happens to not be be the best. So long as everyone is safe, that's the best outcome.
I waited for Christmas and birthdays and first days of school, etc. for over 10 years. There’s never a good time to leave, schedule wise, it just has to be when you’re mentally ready to deal with the fallout without caving and taking them back. I’m 2 years out now and have honestly never been happier. It’s still beyond stressful co-parenting with a violent and narcissistic ex, but my everyday life at home is so much more peaceful and happy. The kids are all thriving too. Good luck xx
Hi you do it when you have organised a safety plan and organised it at the right time for you. Christmas is often a trigger and an escalation of violence occurs so leaving it till after Christmas may not be beneficial to you and the children. You need to do what is right for you! No one can answer this safely for you and remember up until this point you have survived. Trust your gut contact safe steps in your state and also contact your local orange door for more safety related information. Well done for raising the fact that you would like to leave. That is so brave of you!