Looking for some advice for my nearly 9 year old. Recently she has been coming home from school pretty upset, 2 girls in her class are being less than nice. They tell her she isn’t allowed to play with her and it ends up in things like teasing, name calling, moving her school bag or hiding her drink bottle. They have not ever been in the same class and up until now she hasn’t really interacted with them. The thing is these girls don’t deliberately seek out my child to be mean to her and only harassed her when she tries to play with them but the more these girls are mean the more determined my child is to play with them. I have spoken to her teacher and she is aware of the behaviour and has spoken to all the kids about acceptance and positive behaviour. I have tried to tell her just to stay away from them. She has other kids in her class that she gets along with so she isn’t lonely. She does have asd and can invade personal space without meaning to, we have been working on that. The world would be a lovely place if we all got along, but it doesn’t work that way. How can I explain just to play with people that like her. I don’t want to set her up with bad advice but I don’t want her to hang out with people that don’t treat her right.
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Explain that she controls her own happiness. Is trying to be friends with these girls making her happy? Does she want other people to think she is mean like these girls are, because if she succeeds in her current goal, people will think she's a mean girl too. Or does she want to be friends with someone kind, considerate or happy? ASD has black and white views at times.... Find something that will trigger her to move away from chasing this friendship.