13 and drugs

Anonymous

13 and drugs

Hi,

After months of me trying to tell my partner he has finally believed me that his son has been smoking marijuana at friends houses, parks and 12 hours ago I was informed through Snapchat that he is smoking it in his bedroom in his mothers house.

Both my partner and I have been on the phone to his mum all day. She lives 2 hours away so my partner wanted to drive and sit down with his ex and their son and work it all out.

She was so shut down and kept calling and calling and texting saying she doesn’t think it’s a good idea, her other’s kids will be home, she doesn’t want to scare him and she wants it done another time. We told her that his friends have been taking MDMA in front of him and he’s been pulled up by the police with having 2 bongs. (No weed so no parents were called) but, we just can’t help but feel like even though her reasons for not wanting his dad to chat to him are reasonably valid, my partner felt like he needed to nip this in the butt ASAP, she wanted time to process and didn’t really care or look for evidence of him smoking in his bedroom(photo evidence was seen by his father and myself). She was “going with her gut”. Which has pretty much pushed my partners feelings aside and made us feel a little suspicious. She’s gotten a new boyfriend and has fallen pregnant very quickly. My stepson has mentioned to us that his new step father has some PTSD issues and has been unable to find work. Which I have no judgement for what so ever. I feel her home and her business with her partner and his issues are nobody’s business. But I can’t help but feel like Mr. Thirteen is maybe getting the very neatly and well rolled joints from her boyfriend. That’s why so many walls have been put up.

I’ve put some feelers out with my younger brothers friends and I’ve asked them to Snapchat him to pretend to want to buy some. So we can find out where he’s getting it from. But where the hell do we go from here? I feel it’s quite a serious issue and she’s fobbed it off as “oh if weeds the worst he’ll do at 13 I’m happy” well it’s not the worst he can do. His mates are doing MDMA and it’s only a matter of
Time before he does as well.

If we are right and the joints are coming from the new step dad what the hell happens from there? I’m so scared for this little boy. I’ve been his step mum since he was 4. I love him with everything I have but I’m so scared for him. He just spent 10 years with his mums ex who we found out a few months ago was an asshole to him and now possibly this? His mother has made 2 remarks to me now on pick up and drop off that she’s not in any rush to go home and I do a quick eye contact and ask her if she’s ok. (She’s 6 months pregnant) and make sure she knows I mean it but we’ve never been close only polite but I still feel like you don’t ignore those types of comments. I just want to know what the bloody hell is going on in that house if she can’t smell a joint
Being smoked! I’m scared for them. We’ve met the new boyfriend twice now and that was in the very beginning. Haven’t seen him much in the last 6 months. And she’s always pushed it in his head that their house is their business and not to be spoken about here so even if he wanted to talk he wouldn’t. I want him to speak to a professional but my partner doesn’t think his mother will sign off on it.

I’m sorry if this has come out like a projectile vomit of information but I’m just so lost. And being the step mum I’m only
Good enough until I’m not and being with the “every second weekend father” who has never been allowed to have any more time it’s like we’re hanging our head against and very small minded and very controlling brick wall.

Posted in:  Behaviour, Teenagers, Drugs & Alcohol

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Anonymous

Keep screen shots of the evidence and take it all to the cops and tell them ur very concerned for the child's welfare and tell then ur suspicions, also let them know about the friends and mdma. Good luck! It def sounds something sus on the mums end..if it was my child i'd be pulling them into line and taking them to the cop shop myself. The poor son is still a kid and doesn't need others to ruin his life/future.

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