Hey ladies!
I guess I'm just looking for advice or something... I don't know! Lol
So the other night hubby sprung on me that he would like to have another baby! Baby Number 5!!!
Back story...
We already have 4 kids together 3 girls an 1 boy. Since our second child I said that was it no more, then contraception failed an we had baby number 3 then again I said no more were done. A different contraception failed again! And now we have baby number 4! Once again i said that's it I'm defiantly done! Hubby booked in for a vasectomy but backed out on the day coz he fears of losing his "manhood"!
I know every pregnancy is different but my last pregnancy was a breeze an makes me feel like I could do it again! An to be honest unlike some women I love being pregnant!!
I guess my question is when do you actually know your done having babies?
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When I realised that I couldn't afford a massive house and that one day my kids are going to be teenagers who won't like being squished up in the car or sharing rooms plus trying to find holiday accommodation for bigger families is really expensive and hard to find. I have 4 teenagers and honestly this is the limit for me. Forget about being able to handle the pregnancy it's long term you have to think about.
I can't afford any more. Two is my maximum. Maybe more when they're older, or things could change but right now no way. And I don't feel sad. I think about braces for 3, dinner for 3, holidays with 3, carseats for 3, a house with 3 and think no way, no thanks.
I know in my heart that I'm done with 3 (almost teenagers), not because i want to be but because it would be selfish of me to bring another child into our family.
You can't base being "done" off a feeling, it's a choice that needs to be made rationally and logically.
Me personally:
I can't afford it, my health probably wouldn't allow it, I probably wouldn't cope with it, as much as i get clucky and love babies I really don't want to do the sleepless nights again, the toilet training, the toddler tanties, the endless lurgies they pick up at school, pubescent mood swings and so on...
If you were done you'd know. There'd be no question.. the sound of your husbands voice saying he wants another one would have made your vagina clam shut, your episitomy scar itch and your tits droop with misery. You're not done, or else you wouldn't be here.
Forget about pregnancy, that’s very short term thinking.
Think long term, helping kids get a car, education, space in the house for adults, kids go to uni and live at home for longer.
For all I know your hubby could be a CEO and you have to all covered, I don’t know enough to say yes or no but I do think, thinking pregnancy is a breeze is the wrong thing to base this decision on. Think long term.
I also think you need to look at contraception, so your decision is based on what you want, not an accident, there are so many options these days.