Needing a bit of Advice please

Anonymous

Needing a bit of Advice please

Hi All,
A bit of a back story is I got pregnant at the aged of 19 with my Oldest son who is now 9 born 2010 natural birth, the 3 years later we agreed to another child my second son who is now 7 born 2013 natural birth and again in 2016 with twins a boy and girl whom I lost at 24 weeks pregnant with a serve case of preeclampsia it was very traumatic for my self, sons and Partner and I needed a c section as I was quite far gone in the case where it was my life or my twins which there is a lot I don't remember other then lying on the operation table feeling my babies playing in my belly before they put me to sleep.
After I lost my son and daughter I was quite a bit lost I ended up needing help which I got and spent about a year with a psychologist then went back to work again.

Fast forward to now I am now currently 34 weeks pregnant and after this child I will be getting my tubes tied both mine and my partners decision, as none of my pregnancies have been good serve morning sickness and very small babies but lucky both boys have been healthy.

This pregancy has been a very secretive one as I am so scared to loose another child.

My question is I have been told I need to have another c section but this time I'll remain awake with the twins they put me to sleep.
I was wondering what experiences have you had ?
The c section was my first time in a operation room.
I am so scared that they will place the needle in wrong or something will go wrong just needing a bit of advice.

Thanks for the advice.

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Anonymous

Have a chat to your hospital and obstetrician regarding your concerns, however being awake is completely normal unless there’s a clotting risk :) I had a c section and absolutely loved the experience, being relaxed was key and being educated in how it was going to happen :)

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Anonymous

I always thought you had a choice? Look into both ways. I have heard staying awake is better because you get to meet your little one straight away, but going under general will mean you are very groggy when you wake up and you might not even remember meeting your little one x

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Anonymous

They generally avoid putting you under without genuine medical reasoning as the GA passes through to the baby and makes them groggy. Which means if there was a medical problem with the baby it could be dismissed due to the GA making them drowsy :)

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Anonymous

Im so sorry of your loss. What a terrible thing to have to go through for you & your family😢
I always thought unless there was a danger to having a natural birth after c-section then you are completely able to have another natural ? You might want to research this a bit. Dr can try to tell you what to do but at the end of the day its your decision. The next thing is I had an emergency c-section with my first. It was a complete blur & I was off my face...lol... I decided to have an elective c-section with my second but was told by my ob it was my choice. There is a long list of reasons why I went with the c-section. I had the exact same concerns you did & in the end it was such a nice calm experience. I was awake & felt good. They won't start the cut unless they are 100% sure you cant feel anything. I ended up really enjoying the experience much more than I thought.

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Anonymous

Aww you poor girl. I was the same when I was going in for my c section. I was so scared and nervous. I had he worst anxiety. I walked down to the theatre and once there and surrounded by amazing drs and nurses, I was still anxious but very relieved that I knew my baby was going to be out soon and healthy in my arms. I was awake and once the spinal block was in, it was so quick and over with. I couldn’t believe it. While I was so focused on looking and my new Bub and the excitement kicked in, they had already stitched me up and I was ready to go back to the ward. All up from start to finish it took just over an hour. I had pre eclampsia twice with my first 2 so I the feeling of knowing me and my baby were in good hands was a relief. It would have been far more dangerous for us to go natural again. So I felt a sense of calmness and excitement. You will be ok. Focus on the little precious little bundle you are about to receive. I remember saying to them have you started yet and they said we are nearly finished and pulled her out. I was shocked. I guess after long labour’s with the first 2, it was surreal. It was so quick. It’s quite an amazing experience.

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Anonymous

I’m so sorry 😔 such a happy but difficult time after such a tragic loss. I had 2 planned c-sections but with my first they couldn’t get the needle in the right spot. He tried for what felt like forever before putting me under and I was so upset. What I learned from that is that it’s never too late to say no when it’s a controlled environment like that (obviously an emergency is completely different). I was awake for my second (needle slipped straight in, no fuss, while he was talking to me about my concerns it was done). I still wish I had been strong enough to say no, I don’t want this with my first but I was terrified and in the end everyone is safe and healthy and that’s the best outcome. It’s certainly a strange experience to be awake for it but all you feel is pulling and pressure. You’ll be fine ❤️ Just know that at any time you can say no.

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