I see a lot of women posting on here about their partners watching porn and masturbating and how they hate it ect. I was wondering if the same applies to women? Are their any women out there that the male partners hate the fact that they watch porn and service themselves? I don’t see an issue with it either way. But I have definitely noticed that it seems frowned upon for males to do it but when it comes to women it’s fine, self empowering, our right to our own bodies ect
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I watch porn and masturbate a few times a month. I haven't ask my partner for years and year if he masturbates, but I assume so.
Both is normal/healthy/fine. Unless the porn and masturbation overrides having sex with each other lol
I (a woman) don't watch porn but i know my partner would be really hurt if i did. Likewise if i knew he was beating off to porn, I'd find that kond of gross.
Masturbation is normal, healthy and empowering but it's the incorporation of porn that I object to, i actually really despise how normalised porn has become.
I personally find the whole porn industry quite foul, it's not something I associate with empowerment in any sense, regardless of the audience. Particularly as a good majority of porn actually just degrades and objectifies women in a general sense, not to mention the warped reality it depicts.
There's no denying that modern day porn is having an impact on relationships, i mean 20 - 30 years ago most people's porn collection might've consisted of a few nudie mags and some fairly soft core VHS tapes. Nowadays, with a 20 second google search you've got 5000 "teen slut takes big black cock in the ass" videos in the palm of your hand.
It's so easily accessible, it's addictive and can desensitize people from normally functioning, real life sex - this much we know for a fact!
I'm sure people can incorporate porn into a healthy relationship but many of the people who write in here are finding that porn is having a negative impact in their relationships, often their partners choosing or preferring to pleasure themselves with porn over having sex or being intimate with them, some who aren't even able to climax without porn anymore.
It is a really slippery slope and people will have their own individual boundaries regarding it. It's a mutual respect thing for me!!!
My partner doesn’t mind me doing that but he doesn’t like me using my toys. So I just don’t tell him I use them lol. I don’t mind him watching porn or masturbating. As long as he’s not knocking me back for sex then doing it Himself I’m all good. Plus its sexy to send him a little video every few weeks
Can I ask why he doesn’t like you using toys? My ex banned me from having toys but that was because he was tiny and even the smaller toys were bigger than him
I think because it can be hard for me to orgasim but with my toys it happens very fast so I think he feel inadequate
The people writing in have an issue, meaning it's out of the realm of 'normal' for some reason. I find with these questions that often people who have never experienced it can't imagine how it's different to what they experience.
In our relationship, no way. There's no right or wrong or too much, we both have sex toys that we use frequently when the other isn't around (sometimes when they are even).
Each relationship has different boundaries about what is right and wrong morally for that specific couple. Taking into account how each person in that relationship feels and respecting it is key but it is also important to remember that sexuality and sexual choices don't define someone's love for another.
I think the issue arises when one person in a relationship replaces intimacy with their partner with porn and self pleasure.