Bit of a background story, my family and I have become estranged.. we don't do anything together or speak to each other due to the lack of respect for each other.. long story short I ended up having to get an order put in place to protect myself from one of my own siblings! ... Fast forward a couple of months and she's been following me and my children, stalking us to see what we are up to/doing.
I wouldn't normally have an issue with this but I've somehow come to the conclusion and have told our mother that if she doesn't stop her controlling behaviour that I will go ahead and get her charged with stalking.
Now that I've made it clear I feel guilty, I know I shouldn't feel this way but honestly it is so childish and just wrong on so many levels!... I get that she may want something to do with the children but I've told her numerous times that if she cannot respect me as a decent person then it won't happen.
This abusive roller coaster ride with the family is literally having major issues on my mental health as well as my everyday living.
I am already in counselling for my issues and already linked in with a few services to better help myself but no matter what I say or do nothing ever changes.
Honestly think to myself how the hell did it come to this and how do I overcome it all!.. please no judgement, I've done what was/is best for myself at the time but now it seems to be getting worse. I could talk until I am blue in the face and it's like the family do not understand me. I feel so out of place when it comes to family since my dad passed away and it's been 9 years since that happened. It's like every year they compete to see whose worse than the other..... Just want to live happily with family and friends but this crap is not exceptable for me.
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It’s absolutely ok to cut your family out of your life. You are perfectly justified in your reaction to your sister, her behaviour is bizarre and the creep factor is high!
I’d get her charged.
If your family don’t see how out of order her behaviour is, they don’t deserve to be in your life.
Don't feel guilty for not being close or even talking to your family. Love is earned, and they clearly are not earning it. It is your choice to give your time, love and affection to people who deserve it, and if you feel they don't deserve it, then don't see them. Do what is best for you and your children. If you need to press stalking charges then do so. Your life , safety and happiness are your responsibility. Surround your self with positive people who love and respect you. Good luck.
Just because they are related to you doesn't mean that they can pull abusive shit without consequences.
Do what you need to do to establish firm boundaries with these people. If getting the police involved is the only way because they refuse to listen, then that is what you will have to do.