Im really struggling with some information I learnt today. Sorry for the long winded story just trying to make sense of this.
Back story my mother and i dont have a close relationship and havent spoken in pver 6 months and now as adults the same goes for my younger sister (by 4 years). I moved out at 17 because my then step dad was verbally and at times physically abusive. My mum and him have been sepertated for approx 6 years. I lived with my grand-parents, my Dad for a little bit and then a house share. Fast forward 12 or so years and I am now very happily married with a beautiful boy who is almost 8!
Tonight we were having a family dinner for my son's bday. Dad, step-mum, brother (gf) and sister. Find out whilst prepping dinner my mum has reached out to my MIL (who I am very close with and is my biggest support with my son when I work) to catch up for a coffee and discuss some 'personal matters'. My MIL touched base with me to make sure I was comfortable with that, very considerate of her.
I phonsed my sister to ask what was up with Mum, only to be met with "she will talk to you when she is ready". I responded with its not appropriate for her to involve my MIL if she can't even talk to me. It's not fair to put her in the middle of things. As the black sheep of the family I am often left out and not invited to things and see things very differently to my siblings/mum. So My response to her as she repeated, "she will talk to you when she is ready" was well Im always the last to know anything and I will end up some how the bad guy here.
She then blurts out:
Well i dont know how thats possible because i was the one raped by (stepdad).
This would have been approx a decade ago. She has recently told our Mum. She obviously became hysterical and said I wish I knew so i could have helped. She says "well we dont have that sort of relationship do we?" Then the phone abruptly ends and then i try to call Mum who blasts me about "why do I hate her so much?"
This is all too Dramatic for me I'm confused between feeling awful for my sister and for my Mum but this is all too much and I'm not sure what to do. My sister is and has been in counselling for years and says she is ok. Ten years on legally nothing can be done? But a part of me wants justice. He is a vile man who is a pastor in a churches and adored and it makes me sick thinking about it.
What do I do? What can I do?