16 year old suicidal son

Anonymous

16 year old suicidal son

My relationship with my 16 year old son, has turned horrible. He has cut himself off from me and his two younger brothers, and only cares about his girlfriend whom is extremely toxic for him. He left for an hour or so after school on Friday to go visit his girlfriend and family and came back an hour later extremely cranky with me, packed all of his bags and left, I know he had stayed with her over the weekend, and knows he can’t stay permanently, so he has gone to my sisters to stay, which her and I are glad, instead of him ending up in the streets. My sister and I have been talking over the weekend trying to work out what is going on and get him some help, my two younger boys idolise him, and my middle child who has ADHD and other stuff, took it really bad that his brother left on Friday and has been extremely out of sorts and flared up all of emotions and anxieties. This morning I found a suicide note that was dated the 12th of September from my teenager, I texted it to my sister and we’ve been collaborating ways to try and get him help... I just feel so lost about this, I lost my closest friend and family member to suicide before he turned 21, and I’m petrified I’ll be going through it with my son...my son doesn’t want to talk, he hates talking, not interested in seeing anyone, I can get free psychologist appts because of my work, but I feel like he may also need some medication at the moment as well...I just don’t know how to help him and what to do, I always have so much advice for others because I’ve lived through it, but with my son I’m so lost.... what do I do when he doesn’t want help and refuses to talk to me or anyone or see me...

Posted in:  Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression, Teenagers, Tips and Advice

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Anonymous

Is there anyone he looks up to that he would listen to ? An adult male in his life such as a teacher , father , grandfather , a friends father , older brother, male cousin etc.? Someone he respects and trusts might help wonders . A male figure that would have a positive influence on him would be perfect.

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Anonymous

I would be taking him and the letter to our GP and requesting inpatient treatment. If he won’t go with you call the mental health triage in your area for assistance. You have a suicide note and they take it very seriously. They can send someone to where he is staying to have him assessed.

I’m sorry your going through this. I recently had to take my husband punching and screaming to get help. It was emotionally exhausting. Big hugs to you mumma xo

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Anonymous

Im not sure what staye your in but in nsw there is a place called headspace, they have services available from the ages of 12 to 25. You dont need a referral to go to them, even just calling them they can put you incontact with over the phone services or services in your area

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