So my ex has remarried and I hold no resentment or anything infact Im happy for them both and the fact my children have a stepmum that loves and supports them....but since they have gotten married...I am being pushed out of the picture... her title is new mum... she calls the kids "ours" in photos with both parents... this I can deal with although its a little painful.. . What upsets me is that she gets mad at the children when they talk about me... walks around at family events saying that she is not their step mum but their mum. I have a new partner he has kids whom I adore but I would never try to push their mother out or berate them for talking about her....im dissapointed that their father encourages this as my partner and I have already discussed we would never do that to the children who reside with us.... am I within my right to feel this way...or am I being an emotional mother?
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She is being way out of line and I would send them both a list of parental alienation signs, look up eenie meenie Minie moe on Facebook there's heaps of info on there. Not allowing kids to talk about their birth parent, forcing them to call a step parent Dad or Mum and talking badly about you are all on there. Highlight the ones they are doing and ask if you need to go to mediation to sort this out? Hopefully that helps them to see the bigger picture.
That is so
Hurtful & disrespectful towards you. Your ex should put her in her place. Tell her they aren’t her kids and you are happy the way she treats them but she isn’t to tell your kids that she is their mum.!
It's actually a form of child abuse/coaching, to tell the child they can't speak about their parents etc (been there, know the legality). You should never stop a child from speaking about their parents and you have to let the child decide what they call the step parents (mum / dad or by their names). Been through the court process and psychology and found out these little things along the way.
Knowing my kid calls someone else mum hurts but he's happy so I have to be happy for him.