I need some advice, has anyone's kids been bullied at school? My child is in year 7 so first year of high school. I understand kids are trying to find themselves but at what point they they realise they are hurting another child.
My child has had an issue since term 1, school was well aware of on going issues but my child was suspended for standing up for themself and of course no punishment for the bully. We did take it further but lost.
We followed everything the school has requested, child to report all incidents but it's like the school does just not care, I've turned up unannounced at school, I've called and spoke with the Deputy far to many times but all I get is "we are dealing with it"
Do I go to the extreme and seek legal advice or just change schools?
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I was your child at school, my mother refused to change me because “it will get better” I suffered everyday single day until I finally left school in year 10. Fell in with the wrong crowd. Ended up that sad and lost in what I was going to do now I started taking drugs to have fun and pass time, I have only come out the other side now at 28! This all could have been avoided if mum had listened to me and changed my schools when I first begged her to
Enough is enough, the school is going to keep robbing you off. Take your child out now, and make an official complaint.
I hope your child finds happiness at the next school
I told my boy the bullies didn't know him and were just stupid, weak children who would grow up to be stupid, weak adults. I praised him for being smart, kind and funny. I also put him into karate and told him if it was to become physical and he was forced to smash that kid I had his back even if the school didn't.
I would have been at the school ready to roll heads at the suspension. That is, of course, if you're telling the whole story. What did your child do to get a suspension?
I retaliated to a bully in high school and floored the bitch and they tried to pin me, they said I looked too happy about it. This is after years with this bunch of nasty bitches, and in yet another incident of them vs me, so my parents went there and went mental and I got no punishment. And by the way that was a huge turning point for me, the power shifted after that and they weren't actively mean.
Document everything. When they say they're dealing with it, ask for details. What is the plan? What has happened to this child? What should your child do? What will they do if it continues? It's been 8 months now, what's their opinion about that?
And if it's unsatisfactory, yes, move him. He doesn't deserve that and it doesn't happen everywhere.
I would personally move schools. This happened to me from year 7 to year 10. I finally was allowed to change schools but it was far to late. The damage was done and I left half way through 11. Just wasn’t interested in school by this stage. It’s a shocking feeling going to school absolutely hating it ☹️.
If you've exhausted all options, it might be time to consider moving schools.
Having said that, moving schools isn't always a quick fix. I changed schools half way through grade 8 after 18 months of bullying and exclusion that was just passed off as "girls being girls".
I ended up getting bullied (possibly worse) at the new school too, except this time there was a rough crowd waiting to prey on the kids with next to no self esteem.
I don't care what anyone says, there's bullies in every single school regardless of their "we don't tollerate bullying" stance. So whilst moving may be his best option, learning how to cope/deal with bullies and shitty people is a life skill probably needs to learn to some degree.