Being used for money

Anonymous

Being used for money

Just letting out my feelings

So every single pay or when it gets close to, a friend always throws hints at me and or asked for favours, it’s become that bad that I am having feelings of maybe taking a few steps back, I feel she only is my friend is because of the money I get for my kids, I mean the money I get it’s my kids money and helps pay what needs to be paid, am I a bad friend if I distances myself from her, I’ve told her money can ruin friendships, she said she doesn’t want that to happen, but I said that weeks ago, she still hasn’t stopped, it’s effected me that much.

Posted in:  Relationships & Marriage, Self Care, Sisterhood Stories, Health & Wellbeing, Behaviour, Money

17 Replies

Anonymous

Start asking for money off her I bet she disappears real quick.

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Anonymous

She doesn’t do budgeting and I very much doubt she’ll be able to help me, I never have asked her for money

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Anonymous

I don't mean to borrow money because you need it or she has it to give but start doing to her what she does to you.

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Anonymous

You 100% should take a big step back from this friendships. Real friends don’t behave this way. Real friends don’t hit there friends up for money, they don’t track or know/remember there payday, they just don’t do this stuff.
She isn’t a good friend to you. She doesn’t respect you or your kids needs. She is the one who is behaving badly, of course you should distance yourself and set clear boundaries about what is acceptable in a friendship and don’t accept rude behaviour!

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Anonymous

Yeah it’s pretty disgusting that she knows when pay day is, I’ve been saying no lately but will throw hints or ask for a favour a few days later, she doesn’t know this is effecting me, she got into a new relationship and told the guy that I’ll help her with nappies or anything to do with the kids, or when she needs smokes, this guy now expects this from me also, I was not happy she told this to a guy she only just meet.

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Anonymous

That’s appalling behaviour on her part.

Time to ditch this person from your life. This is not a friend.

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Anonymous

Run!!! She is using you. Send her a msg stating your feelings and cut all contact.

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Anonymous

Stop giving people your money!!! Just ignore calls or even better, say no! See how long the friendship lasts then...

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Anonymous

I’ve been saying no, she’ll then wait a few days or to it’s close/leading up to pay day, it’s very bs that she can keep track of kids and I pay day, I’ve told her many many times to work with a budget.

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Anonymous

Say no! Again! Every time, all the time. The answer is no or just leave it on read and don't reply.

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Anonymous

I’ve gotten the attitude all day all because I said I can’t help, her behaviour has effected me, the attitude childish behaviour is really disgusting, just because I don’t want to give her money, it’s my kids money not mine, breaks my heart that this has become so bad, yes I’ll be doing just that and ignore the hints and favours.

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Anonymous

You need to forget the friendship, this is no friendship, you're a mug and the fact SHE has an attitude at you proves it - why are you not mad at her and putting her in her scummy place??
It doesn't matter if it's yours or your kids, you make the decisions and you should be 1.telling her to shove it. And 2. Asking her for your money back. All the time. Respond with that every single time she asks. And when you get it back DO NOT GIVE HER ANY MORE.

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Anonymous

Trust me I am mad at her, this is why I’ve been saying no, I’m just happy that I am not giving her any money just because she chooses to not save or hold some money she gets, I’m just done with her asking me or throwing hints at me, she should of got the hint that I say no and have been for a few weeks now and she still asks or gives hints.

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Anonymous

Block her phone number and block her on social media. Her behaviour is so outrageous. I’d be done!

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Anonymous

Start saying things like, your turn to shout me lunch we’re going to ******* yeah? She’ll start avoiding you.

You need to tell her straight. Look I understand this period is hard on you but I cannot lend you any more money. I love our friendship but I love it more when you’re not asking me for money as I actually don’t have a lot and the money I get for the kids needs to be spent on the kids and myself and our lives. Maybe I can help you write a budget that you can stick to.

My bet is that she or her “boyfriend” are doing drugs and that’s the reason she doesn’t have a lot of cash. When I became a single mum any “habits” I had stopped as I couldn’t afford them. Smoking/drinking excessively/nights out/ cafe lunches/coffees I said goodbye too until I had a budget in place.

Then I made sure every week on pay day I paid every bill, I went to the supermarket and brought a fortnight’s worth of food, put $30 aside for extra bread and milk. And if there was anything left over I may have brought myself a $5 bottle of wine and the kids each a happy meal and then I would keep anything else in my bank account for emergencies or a little splurge or something the kids needed it for. My friends who liked to get drunk, smoked or did drugs were always asking me for a loan. I’d tell them that I had nothing to give them and they’d ask about my savings. I told them that money can cause issues between friends and to prevent issues there would be no money lent. Our friendship although it faded was not very good and I knew why they had me around. Don’t get me wrong I will help out a friend/buy them a birthday lunch/lunch ocassiinally but I won’t hand over cash to anyone.

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Anonymous

Cut her off now!! Don’t feel bad. You will feel so much better once you do. Stand up to her. You tell her no you can’t afford it. If it was you, she wouldn’t do it for you.! If you think she’s using you then she is! Cut her off you will feel much better.

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Anonymous

She is a using bitch.. cut her off!!

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