Would you say something.
Almost 11 months ago I gave birth to our third baby. At the time I was overweight and had gestational diabetes which I managed throughout my pregnancy really well. I hadn’t lost my weight from having my first 2 children and I was trying my best to eat well, exercise, look after my family and do my job (which is full time in a very full on emergency services job where I get called out anytime day/night to some pretty horrible situations). I didn’t put on any weight during pregnancy and swam almost daily so I was feeling ok about giving birth. I was booked in for an induction as my first baby had been 10lbs (no gestational diabetes) and they wanted to deliver him before he got too big.
On my induction day my husband and I were super excited and nervous about the labour and meeting our beautiful new bub. In the room was our midwife, an assistant midwife and a student doctor. The drip was started and the midwife started to hook me up to the baby heart rate monitor around my belly. She lifted my gown (no underwear by then) in front of the other doctor, midwife and my husband and exclaimed loudly, “god how did you let yourself go so much and get so over weight. You need to lose weight”!. I was shattered and in shocked and just mumbled that I had been trying really hard to be healthy throughout my pregnancy. I could see the other midwife and student doctor looked uncomfortable and my husband was looking angry at her. I was squeezing his had in an effort to stop him getting angry and saying something to her as I didn’t want a scene during labour. But what she had said absolutely killed any positivity I had come in with for the birth of our baby. I struggled and felt so alone in the rest of my labour in my head. My husband was right by my side holding my hand supporting me the whole time but it was such a negative experience that ever since it has really devastated me in regards to the memory of bringing our last baby into the world.
My other two births I was so supported and cared for by amazing professionals. I just feel like it was a very unnecessary and crap thing to say to a women at one of the most vulnerable times in her life. I know I need to lose weight but did she really think mid labour was appropriate and so rudely.
My question is would you make a complaint to the hospital even though it is almost a year later? I would just hate for other women to have the same experience.