Hi Mums,
Feeling lost.
My ex has a new gf who has kids, and we have a 2 year old son. Soon they will all start spending time together. I know it’s important for him to have time with his father but im just feeling like he will have this whole life without me, when he is my everything .
I know im selfish but i already feel like we have limited time together due to work.
Not looking for judgement, just on ideas on how you cope being apart.
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Do stuff for you! Do the things you enjoy, things that may be difficult for you to do when your toddler is home - like hiking, movies, lunch, or dinner with mates, gym, go out dancing, read a novel, have a warm bath, enjoy a hot tea or coffee, pamper yourself, etc. Just things like we used to do before children. Or try something youve never done before, like a drawing or dance class? Obviously its about you and what you like - just examples!
Its ok to miss them, but use it as an opportunity to keep other parts of you alive 🖤
This is a fantastic opportunity to grow as a person. Discover a hobby, learn how to spoil yourself, go see a movie, join a social group on meet-up.
It’s really important to start developing your sense of self that doesn’t entirely revolve around being a mum. That’s something all parents need to carve time out for and you have the perfect time to do it.
I totally get it. My ex has a partner with 3 kids and all of a sudden they are an instant family with my two boys yet when they are with me it’s just us. I feel like I’m boring to them when they are with me.
I had to try to think of the positives- when they are with me they get undivided attention, they get a rest fo the chaos when they are with me. Our bond grows as I focus on nothing else but them etc.
Its definitely a hard pill to swallow but try to focus on the positives and devote your time and energy to your son. Your bond will be strong as he grows. Don’t worry. When you don’t have him, take time out for yourself. Exercise, go out with friends, join a club, all those sorts of things help. Good luck Mama.x