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I can't survive off this little sleep my baby 3 mths . ....
I can't keep going.....
How do I keep going .....
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I can't survive off this little sleep my baby 3 mths . ....
I can't keep going.....
How do I keep going .....
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We’ve all been there and done that. You just have to. Sleep when baby sleeps. Cry when baby cries. Ask for help, get your partner to get up on the night shift or request a family member to come and assist so you can Sleep. But honestly, we just have to push through, it’s only temporary
Oh lovely I understand so completely- sleep deprivation is the devil!
Have you got someone you can ask to come over and cuddle the baby while you sleep?
Reach out!
I also started to express around the same time. So I would do the 7pm feed hand the baby to my hubby and I went to bed. Hubby would give him the dream feed at 9pm and put him to bed for me. I then woke for the next feed. But usually managed a good 5-6 hours
Oh lovely I understand so completely- sleep deprivation is the devil!
Have you got someone you can ask to come over and cuddle the baby while you sleep?
Reach out!
I also started to express around the same time. So I would do the 7pm feed hand the baby to my hubby and I went to bed. Hubby would give him the dream feed at 9pm and put him to bed for me. I then woke for the next feed. But usually managed a good 5-6 hours
As the others have said - reach out for help. I used to go to bed as soon as my partner got home from work and get some sleep. On weekends I would express and he would be staying up anyway so would do the first feed. When my parents or someone I trusted would come over I would hand over baby and go to bed. Basically I would crash any chance I got. Other than that, sleep when baby does. Best thing I was ever told was go down as soon as baby goes down because if you think oh I'll just get xyz done and then go for a snooze well by the time you've done those things baby is awake again. It will get better though. I know there seems no light at the end of the tunnel at the moment but it will get better x
Can someone come and hold the baby so you can get a few hours sleep.
If baby will take a bottle of expressed milk I’d hand baby over to someone else so you can get some sleep.
Don’t let anyone tell you to suck it up. Different people need different levels of sleep and we don’t know how much sleep you are getting.
It’s a good idea to speak to your GP/baby nurse. You might benefit from a week in sleep school (which doesn’t mean sleep training by the way, they can also give you a really good rest).
Do you have a support network? Your mum, family, friend, partner? Even One good sleep a week changes everything and gets you back off that crazy ledge.
Don't listen to people that say we've all done it. Its very different for everyone. Baby can be really difficult, and support and help, an d your own state of mind and health makes a world of difference.
Reach out when you need it. Even ask on a mothers group and there are probably local women who would happily come and give hands on help.
This is probably no help at all but I wanted to share my current experience
I have 10 week old twins, no family, no friends and no support. My partner also works 12 hour days and drives trucks so needs a full night sleep.
I sleep from the moment he comes home, even if it’s just for an hour, OR I just have some me time for an hour in my room with the door shut. I cried everyday for the first 8 weeks, all night when I had to do feeds I would cry out of exhaustion, I’ve even passed out several times and woken up 2 hours later to find babies asleep where I were feeding them, sleep deprivation is real!!!
Now I don’t have post natal depression however I went to the doctor recently and went on a very low dose of anti depressant and ever since I have managed SOO much better, I have not cried ever since and I just ‘manage’ better.
Just remember it is only temporary and you will sleep again. In a certain about of time it will get easier. I know this is no help but all I have to say is you are not alone and just keep soldiering on. Seek help from family and or friends, see a doctor or try even get a minute to yourself each day if you can, I find this helps me a lot! I am only my own 24/7 but 3 hours of each day and night and I have a 6 year old to get to and from school and look after aswell. Take care! It’s not forever and remember what a good job you are doing. xxx
Your incredible xoxo