High school woes

Anonymous

High school woes

So my daughter is in year 7 and doesn’t have any friends at all. Not even one good friend and it breaks my heart as it is majorly effecting her self esteem, there has been a few occasions she has just burst into tears and said that no one likes her. She does sport but mainly associates with the coaches while there. She has been like this most of her schooling years, she would always float between friendship groups but not really have the strong friendship. She’s a really social person, but when tends to get a bit over excited and end up acting awkward and silly. it’s also her way or no way so she’s quite stubborn in that sense.
I use to try offer advice but I literally have zero friends myself so I’m probably the worst person to be doing so. I just want her to be happy within herself but her confidence is dwindling so much I don’t know what to do. Any advice ?
Ive come across the book “how to make friends and influence people for teen girls”. Any reviews on this book? Is it worth trying. I don’t want to do any more harm then good then what I’ve already done

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Anonymous

I was like this (still am, I guess). Always struggled socially, making friends, feeling like I was not "getting" it and being very sad about it. In the past year or so I've come to strongly suspect that I am autistic and I'm going to pursue diagnosis for my own peace of mind. Lots of girls who are can go under the radar as they learn to read and mimic social cues (such as eye contact) and they don't always have those strong obsessions with specific subjects, but they can be inflexible and appear a bit odd (I communicate in movie and tv quotes, for instance). I don't know if this helps, but as someone who wishes it was recognised more when I was a kid, I wonder if it's something to look into?

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Anonymous

Maybe some behavioural therapy and social skills building is needed. Can you link her into youth groups at local churches or volunteering locally?

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