I had my baby 5 months ago via emergency caesarean, since my babies birth my partner of 10 years and 3 childrens father decided to separate.. since then I've been feeling more and more overwhelmed, I have swimming lessons, dance classes, karate classes all of which my older kids enjoy, I enjoy seeing them happy. But every class/lesson I'm left sitting alone... I've found myself feeling very down lately, I've made an appointment to see my dr to discuss this.. however I'm hesitant in explaining just how shitty I'm feeling, I've been medicated for depression in the past, following the birth of my first born 8 years ago.. when my first born was 8 weeks old I found out I was pregnant.. at 21 years old.... i struggled even with my partner.. now I'm older and have more experience I feel as though I've lost my strength.. I understand my babies needs more, she isnt my issue
My issue is since I was 15 years old this man has been my rock.. now that's gone due to us both growing apart.. I feel alone, I cry sometimes when I've settled my kids, I get me time.. I finally had that moment where I realised, I'm not a tank and I need support too.. my parents have passed and I have no family to fall on to.. so I'm gonna be brave and really tell my dr how I feel.. I'm just wondering tho... how much do I fully disclose, I'm a young single mum of 3, I feel I need to choose my words wisely.. I need to get my feelings across but how do I do that without feeling like I'm judged.. I know it sounds silly... but please ladies.. do I explain all details or perhaps seek counseling before I seek medication..
I'm lost
**I might add since the break up, the father has ignored me and gone about his life as If we do not exist... so he is no help at all!!
Post natal depression
Post natal depression
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Explain, drs are there to help, not judge. Make sure you booked a long appointment.
Honestly, this sounds normal. Your grieving. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be sad. A councillor may be of help, but I can assure you, holding it together until your alone to cry...IS OKAY! That’s apart of grieving too. Find someone to speak to, because this all sounds like grief and built up anger/resentment.
Your going through the a major life change, probably the hardest thing you may ever go through and with three kids. Mention to the doctor the separation, your communication issues with your partner, that your overwhelmed having to deal with this whole situation yourself, that your feeling sad and that you have no family to support you. The doctor will understand and not judge you at all. Please give yourself credit for holding it all together this far and especially for recognising you need to make yourself happy and better not only for yourself but for your babies. Good luck.
Be honest. Tell them everything so you can get help for everything.
You're doing the best you can. You'll get through this.
No one will judge you. You have a lot on with no support. I just want to hug you and tell you everything will be ok eventually.
Just you worry about you and the kids. Don’t contact him anymore. Let yourself mourn your loss.
Tell your doctor the lot.