Please someone give me the advice I need. I have an almost 3 year old little boy and the last 6ish weeks it’s like his behaviour has just absolutely flipped. He has these explosive tantrums - it feeels like all day. His immediate reaction to everything is to scream no and just keep screaming. I’m at my wits end - I don’t know how to deal or help him. It’s causing arguments at home because we just don’t know how to deal. He’s a healthy little boy otherwise, meeting all the milestones etc. We also have a 1 year old who I know he can jealous of so we do one on one time with him. I don’t think that’s the reason for his recent change but I just don’t know what it is??? Please send help for this desperate mumma 😢
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This is okay it is normal he is just not able to work out his emotions my 2 boys were like this at this age ! Whenever he starts screaming calmly sit down to his level hug it out and tell him to smell the Rose's and blow out the candles! Just hug it out I find boys are slower mentally to get there emotions in check ! Maybe go to a child physce for help but it may be just an age thing the most important thing is to control how you as parents react it's hard its tiring but perseverance will pay off ! I thought my two would never grown out of it no more screaming no more tantrums very calm little men now research read go to online seminars there is loads free there is nothing wrong with him he is just a little human working his way around the world good luck
I have an 2.5 year old and he's recently started this. I've also noticed though that it's the same when he's happy/excited. He jumps around, claps, literally vibrates energy. Ive put it down to not being able to control his emotions. As the other poster has said - hugs work well for us. Removal from the environment to somewhere quieter and calmer. But also just being aware of what's going on between the kids and trying to intercept and head off meltdowns before they occur and encouraging him to use his words
Mine went through this. It's so hard. But it passes... eventually. I think it's a developmental stage, they just can't cope for a while and then they get it, a whole bunch of new skills and understanding, and it all gets better again.
Personally I warn that it's not ok, then offer two choices, then if they're tantrumming I put in their room this just works for me as it gets it over and done with and in 2 minutes we cuddle and say nice things and I explain you were sad/angry etc. Then it's usually not long until it happens again but they can't control it.
I am always saying that it's not longer the terrible twos. Three year olds are honestly the difficult age. It will pass. Just keep being consistent in your approach to tantrums and be gentle on yourself the days you're feeling defeated. But hang in there, it passes
When things suddenly go off the rails I look at 3 things before anything else
1. Sleep - are they getting enough, going at about the same time, waking up about the same time
2. Diet - good nutritious, low sugar, low additives etc
3. Health - worms, ear infection, teething, iron levels are the first things that come to mind.
Certainly 3 is a difficult age however I’ve found after 5 kids there are lots of difficult times. If I can keep those 3 things in check even my children with ASD and ADHD are so much better within themselves.