FB groups. Not for Facebook please!

Anonymous

FB groups. Not for Facebook please!

Hi ladies!

I know this is probably going to sound juvenile so if you just feel the need to tell me that, just keep scrolling please.

Basically, I stumbled upon a wicked little Facebook group recently. It's not really a dedicated mother's group but its pretty much a group of mum's who come there to vent about their husbands, make jokes about their kids, talk about their sex lives (very candidly I might add), there's a lot of dark or crass humor and generally the mum's are bit non PC and very sweary lol. One of the only groups I've ever found without any sanctimonious Susans lol!

Aside from my childhood bestie, in real life i don't have a huge social circle, especially not many people I am that comfortable with or can have that sort of banter with, so it was nice to discover this small little corner of the internet, where I felt instantly welcomed where I could be 110% myself without reservations and talk very openly about things in my life.

I didn't tell/invite my best friend to this page for a few reasons.
A. Like I said, no one else on my friends list was part of this group and just felt like my place.
B. It's really not my friend's scene. She's quite conservative, wholesome, sweet and sensitive (and those are in no way bad qualities, they're what make her endearing and beautiful).
I absolutely love her to death and we're basically family.

Anyway, she found the group of her own accord. It's a private group but anyone can request to join.

Is it totally silly that I feel kind of sad/annoyed that my friend is now a member too?

I just mean, now I feel like I have to be guarded and watch what i say/share. It uses to be my safe place to talk about personal things in my life to impartial and objective people who don't know real life me.

Obviously I can't and never would ask her to leave "my group", I just kind of miss it being somewhere that kind of felt like a separate world, you know?

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Anonymous

If it's not her scene she'll leave.

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Anonymous

Create an alter profile so you can be there

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Anonymous

Grow up and learn how to communicate freely with your husband respectfully like he does with you I'm sure....Bad advice from bitter ex- partners and scorned single mothers that assumes all the grass is greener till they got theirs now trying hard to justify being trainwrecks emselvs is totally outa the question so who better for dumping dirty laundry on but you will guess this right I bet you Babe.?.?....The man...grow up learn to communicate with your partner and respect his own personal life and private family business also...

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Anonymous

Wow, thanks for picking the piece out of my question that took your fancy and running with it, at what point did I even say I HAD a husband or partner, let alone that I use the group as a bitching spree?

I used this group to talk/vent/ask adcice about personal (to me) situations that I didn't particularly want to do so with my friends and family (as they have a tendency to worry, mollycoddle or sometimes be dismissive).

I was trying to paint a picture of what the group is like, so many other topics are discussed it's not full of bitter ex wives hell bent on destroying ex husbands, half the time that particular venting is in jest. In fact the group, it's not entirely unlike this page, just on a much smaller scale and the women are much less likely to be unreasonably opinionated.

You missed the gist of my question completely.

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Anonymous

So out of context. I think she’s actually responding to a different post. Don’t take it to heart, has nothing to do with your question.

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Anonymous

I am a fan of being less PC than the uptight majority. I have a wicked sense of humor and love a good laugh. I swear like a sailor with Tourettes and work in one of those blokey industries where we get away with a whole lot more than many. Yes you might need to moderate yourself a little if she's not used to that side of you but honestly if she's already your bestie you shouldn't be able to come out with anything that's going to surprise her.

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Anonymous

Maybe she needs this group too?

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Anonymous

Yep I never invite my friends to my private groups

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Anonymous

Of course it's okay. We all like to have somewhere to be free to speak without the worry of someone we know finding out. Hell, I hate that my MIL discovered FB and has it set to get notifications every time I (or my friends - she's friended them all!) comment on anything & she hits 'like' then comments on what I said in person when I see her. It's creepy & invasive tbh. Hence I've joined closed groups as it's the only place I feel safe to interact now & even then I'm wary. Your group sounds awesome. I can never find them tho!!

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Anonymous

What’s the FB group called? I wanna join ☺️

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Anonymous

😂😂😂 same! Spill!

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Anonymous

How annoying, I feel ya😂😂😂

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Anonymous

Just so you know if you have shared anything you really don't want her to see she only has to search your name in the group and all of your old posts and comments will come up.

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