Not sure what I’m asking,maybe just after thoughts on the following situation.
Basically my husbands brother was caught dealing and using ice.Was arrested and only given community service!Wtf!That was several months ago.
Recently this brother has started a new business.He is actually a very smart man who has had an incredible educational etc.So my husband told me one week ago that his brother has been clean for one week and he is going to help with the business by sorting out the website technical side of things(my husband is a tech freak lol) I’ve spoke with a family friend and the brother is not as clean as he is telling my husband apparently.
I check the website out and was slightly alarmed.
The website sells drug using and selling paraphernalia and men’s adult items.The thing is,I have seen messages from the brother to my husband saying that he needs his own laptop to help out with.Husband said oh my wife has one(me) but the brother is adamant he can’t help unless he has his own.Brother also wants husband to use whatsapp to “help with marketing”.I have also seen a message to the brother saying” I have a customer but he speaks Hebrew..can you get so and so to translate?
Now I’m not stupid and I think the brother is up to no go and dragging my husband into his junkie shit.I don’t trust him.My husband has had his own share of trouble with the law due to his alcoholism(recovering alcoholic) My husband has had a problem with weed in the past.I have also had someone accuse him of using ice as he get bad rosacea and this person said “nah he is on ice and picking his face”.My husband is the kind of man to say how high when his brother says jump as he just wants his love/approval god knows what.
I detest drugs and my husband knows this and I feel that there may be sneaking shit going on behind my back and my husband probably wouldn’t admit to anything even if I asked him what’s going on as I have a weird gut feeling.
Should I just leave it for now and see if anything happens or forget about it..so unsure what to do.
EDIT-the brother doesn’t live near us.Is around 7hrs away in another state.
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You should store that information in your giant red flag memory bank!
Then very nicely tell your husband that you are very worried about what he is getting involved in. That you won’t stop him, but he needs to think about what the consequences could be.
Then watch and wait. If you see more red flags you need to protect yourself.
Get out while u can!
Omg this is sick !!! Get FAR away from those two , before you know it you'll have ice debt collectors at your door and run throughs being committed at your place , terrorising you and your children , if any . He will be in too deep before too long . This is a dangerous scenario waiting to happen .
Amd just wait until the police storm through to raid your house at 7am. What an excellent childhood memory for your kids 😔
LEAVE BEFORE ITS TO LATE. Take all your belongings and all the money and get your own place.
Your husband 110% knows there’s something sinister going on.
If this were me I would be contacting the police immediately to protect yourself and the kids - your house will be searched sooner or later and you need to rid yourself as an accomplice!!
I so agree with this. Its clear as day to you so I find it very hard to beleive your husband is that dumb he can't see exactly what he's getting himself into.
Don't let them use your laptop
It amazes me how many women marry bogan feral men like these two.
How is that even relevant to what the OP is asking? There is absolutely no constructive advice and you are just here to belittle someone. This is not what this community needs.
Think before you type, it's a LOT easier than just blurting someone out in speech. You have the option to backspace and then have time to think before you press post.
Instead of giving name calling personal attacks as statements , give the poster advice about what to do . Yes i think you have a slightly valid point in your remark , but it's hardly helpful or constructive. I don't think the poster married a 'bogan' , this is evidentally all new to her , what is going on now with him and his brother , and now's the time for advice . Not scathing comments that don't offer any solutions .
I was thinking the same, probably better ways to say it though.
However, it might be the wake up call this lady needs?
I’m sure most people were thinking the same.
To the commenter above, doesn’t sound new at all, sounds like it’s been ongoing to some degree forever.
To the OP, you deserve better, get the hell out of there.
Your husband knows what’s going on, I guarantee he isn’t an innocent bystander.
I would leave, sounds like stuff like this will be an ongoing issue and you have no trust in him.
No trust equals no relationship.
Do you want to spend your life ensuring your husband stays on the right side of the law and sober?