How do I get the courage to leave? I’ve left my husband previously because we have just been too different and he gets all controlling and almost possessive over me and what I do, and failed staying apart cause I felt scared on my own so I’ve taken him back.. I’ve finally realised that’s the wrong thing and we really aren’t right for each other and I don’t want my kids to grow up thinking that’s normal and I don’t want to do this anymore but I’m not sure how to make that first step? His very controlling so I’m just not sure how I go about this? I’ve gotta do this right because this time it’s for good and it’s the best thing for me and my kids, I know financially I’ll struggle but the happiness I’ll gain will be worth it.. help please mummas..
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Just want to say follow your heart mumma. Only you know what you need to do . Never rely on other ppls opinions . Your life is yours alone , never settle for less than you deserve
You have made the first step before lovely, you can do it again. But this time you need to prepare yourself to be strong. Surround yourself with support of family and friends so you have them to back you up when you're afraid, so you dont find yourself leaning on your ex husband again.
See a GP and get a mental health plan to see a psychologist. I wonder if his possessive/controlling behaviour has left you feeling a bit helpless? Like you need him?
Because I want to assure you, you do not! But a psychologist can help you retrain your thought patterns and support you so you can regain your strength.
You already have one foot out the door. You can do this! Xxxxx
I think the problem isn’t leaving. You know how to do that and can do that.
I think getting yourself some counselling to help you stay on track and finding other ways to feel safe will help you stay away from him.
Why are you scared? Is it because he’s made you believe you can’t cope on your own? Get yourself to where you understand your thought processes and can challenge those thoughts.