Has any one had a just turned teenage son go to hit u ? (being the mum) never been violent before but was chastised for standing over his sibling & then when mum said not to do it he said a mouth full of cheek to the mum then put up his hands to hit.
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Nope but that is not on. Call headspace tomorrow and the school to link him up with a counselling
Yes my son has hit me a few times and thrown a wooden chair at me while I was 25weeks pregnant leaving me with massive bruises.
Got him into a good psychologist and worked on anger management though headspace. Teen years are frigging hard with all the hormones are running around the body. Absolutely no excuse for appalling behaviour though, however he’s now older and hasn’t laid a hand on me again and has actually apologised for his poor behaviour in the past.
Tonight at dinner he even asked me how my day was 😂🤷🏻♀️
Good luck, love him through this challenging time, talk to him when he’s calm about what happened and see if he can identify how it can be handled better in the future.
Yes, my son was a different child when he was 14. Very angry, there were several factors at play. He is now 17 and you would never pick him for being one of those kids he is so grown up now and happy. That boy needs help x
Tell you what , if any of my teens did that that me , especially on a regular basis , they’d be kicked out to live elsewhere that fast . I’d do what I could before that point first tho, like talking , councilling , therapy , rule setting , involving other family members for discussion and discipline etc ... kids can come good , but if it started getting worse and out of control, I’d remove them from my home until I knew it was safe to have them return .
Contact headspace and your GP immediately, get him onto a mental healthcare plan. Find out why he is acting out - dperession, bullying, drugs, alcohol etc.. so many factors could contribute to this!
Have a chat to him in a calm manner as to why this happened and why he behaved in this way? Tell him how it is unacceptable and you will not tolerate this behaviour and especially in the presence of siblings.
It's up to you whether there are consequences for said behaviour, but do not let it slide it must be spoken about in an open manner. I wouldn't punish immediately without knowing what's going on, he may be extremely bullied or depressed and he will feel you are against him not with him.
Headspace! Or a psychologist if there isn't a headspace near you.
His world would stop. Police. Dv shelters. Positive male rodel talks, removal of everything, chores, the works to make sure he knows.
My oldest child has tried it once, did didn’t end well in his favour. Hormones are hard to deal with. But after being held up by my throat against a wall by his dad (we’ve been split now for years) I learnt how to deal with it and swiftly. Kid is highly unlikely to try it again.