Strange one here.
We aren't engaged but know we will get married, we talk about it all the time. We chose a date in 2020 but decided to push it back to save more money as it will be quite a large wedding.
Its literally all I think about. I spend all weekend looking at wedding stuff. Every spare moment I have at work is spent looking at wedding stuff. I have picked my dress, flowers, shoes, bridesmaid dresses, the church, reception venue, food, music - all the big stuff! He is very much beside me in the decisions so im not going hard at it alone! His Mum even has an input and is very much excited.
We are thinking end of 2021 but I am one of those people that needs to be organised well ahead of time or it sends my anxiety through the roof so I feel like im knocking the big things down to prepare for everything else as it gets closer.
My question is: is anyone else this batshit crazy?
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Oh gosh!
I think there is nothing wrong with having an idea about what you want.
But trends and fashions change a lot in that amount of time. What you think is nice now, you won’t think the same of in three years.
BTW if you are planning a wedding, you are engaged. That’s literally what being engaged means= planning to marry someone.
I think if you want a big wedding, getting some savings aside, is a great idea. Actually paying for things will end up costing you more in the long run cause you will look at stuff later and say WTF was I thinking!
Also venues will more than likely undergo renovations and may not be to your liking anymore.
I think it’s fine to be excited but look - you are going to drive your family and friends crazy and you could set yourself up for a huge fall if all you do is think about/plan for the wedding and give no time to relationship building with your partner and friends. Once the wedding is done - what then?
How can you plan without booking venues, ordering flowers and buying a dress? Seriously, organising a wedding is hardly the big thing ppl make it out to be. There actually isn't that much to do. I think the only thing that was actually time consuming was addressing all the invitations.
My husband and I started planning our wedding 2 years in advance. Unfortunately we could
Book a venue that far in advance. Everything else was done on time. We sent invites out a year in advance. I like to be prepared
Just get engaged and start planning.
Why are you NOT engaged when your partner is there helping you plan?
That's only "suss " thing I get from this post.
The planning is normal.