I live at home with my mum my older brother and 2 younger sister. I'm a full time mum to a 3 and a half year old.
We live in quite a big house we all have a room and are on half an acre.
Every one works but me. My two sisters will work from about 9-11.30 or 12. They will then come home and watch TV or sleep
I'm at a loss with the house chorse
I do the mowing and the gardening I wipe the vanity every day and clean the toilet every second day. I always make sure everything of mine and my daughters it put away.
But it's getting out of hand what the expect of me. They have told me since I don't work I need to do everything. I washed my sister uniform yesterday and hung it out. I went out that day and didn't get home to 7 and then had to cook dinner and out my daughter to bed. Today my sister woke me up screaming at me that I didn't bring in her uniform. She told me I wasn't her sister and don't work as a team hee uniform was wet. My mum told me it's my job every day to bring in every one's clothes. I feel like now I have to come home before it is dark no matter what commitments I have to get the clothes off or I'm going to be yelled at.
Since I do the toilet and the rest of the bathroom every day I thought it would be okay to ask my other sister to clean the shower every week as she is into all this hair stuff so the shower is covered in products and hair all clogging the drain. She said no flat out she is only doing it every second week. I don't really feel like pulling all her hair out of the drain.
Tonight I realized the fridge needs cleaning out. It's quite discussing really. I asked if we could work as a team and clean it together. She said no as only some of it is hers so she shouldn't have to do it. That I'm home tomorrow it's my full day at home I can do it then.
I suggested we all put 20 mins in a night to clean up. But that didn't happen.
I can get home from appointments and the house is like a bomb. From top to bottom. I will clean it up before my mum gets home at night. But I'm becoming exhausted. I feel like their slave. They take their shoes off and leave them at the table eat on the couch and leave all their plates and rubbish on the coffee table take their clothes off and leave them in the lounge room, tonight I had to pick up a pad in the bath so my daughter could hope in there the list goes on.
I'm starting tafe soon full time and I don't know where I am going to find the time to look after my self my studies my daughter and my horses now winter is coming I'm there twice a day every day.
I'm after any suggestions that will help I would love to work as a team to keep the place clean as at the moment with me being out the past week every day the house is quiet dirty we have ants and mould growing. We live in such a beautiful house in a stunning neighborhood we are so lucky to have such a unique house but no one takes care of it.
What can I say or do to show them we can do this and how tired I am with all this work.
I get I don't work but I feel like there is a line that needs to be drawn.
Shared house with family
Shared house with family
Posted in:
Relationships & Marriage, Mental Health, Self Care
7 Replies
FFS already get your own place!
I live with my parents, work full time, have a child plus do all you do, including cooking dinner every night (get home around 6.30, pick up child from after school care on my way home), my mum is home all day but incapable. These are things you would have to do anyway if you lived alone. Cleaning out the fridge isn’t a two man job, really!
I would keep cleaning but not clean their shit left out, they can do that.
When you are full time tafe, you won’t be home and then they will have to get off their arse.
Is it so bad to help out when you are the only one not working?
If you don’t like it, stop whinging and move out, then you will need to work to support yourself as well as do everything else.
They survived before you moved in and they will survive with you gone.
You’ve written in already and gotten advice. It was good advice. Move out and stop being their slave. It’s not going to change and you know it. I remember you’ve got horses too. Time to put your big girl panties on and pay to adjist them, get a job and utilise day care. That way you won’t have to deal with the unfairness of the situation you put yourself in. You may have plenty of space but it is not ideal. Either get used to being treated like a slave or move out.
How is the place covered in ants and mould ? How is it that dirty if you’re always cleaning ? Bunch of pigs all of you in my opinion. And besides , I’ve read this post before . You were given similar advice from everyone regarding this post then too . Writing in again about it won’t change the answers .
Move out! You can’t change selfish people. It will be much easier on your own
Move out. Or just don't do it. Put their mess in their bedrooms. I wouldn't do a damn thing of theirs on principal. But really, move out.
With all due respect, jumping on here and asking the same question every few months isn't going to help your situation, nor is it going to gain you much sympathy when you were given good advice last time.
If it's as awful as you say, why are you choosing to stay? Are you benefiting financially, are you benefiting from free baby sitting? Like really, what is the reason keeping you from finding your own little place?
I've made my own way in this world since I was 16, God knows I've faced some tough times since then but i survived, so if i could do it, you can do it!