What would it be like?

Anonymous

What would it be like?

Hi, very picky subject.

Has anyone had a child and later down the track after being a single mum for so long wonder what it would be like if you didn't have a child?

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Anonymous

Of course! I used to wonder a lot. There are also coupled parents who wonder as well.

People do and can regret having children.

My wondering did get less as life got easier and my child got older. I’ve always been the sort of person who backed my decisions and made the most of it though so I haven’t allowed those feelings and thoughts to take hold.

Those feelings have nothing to do with me being single or part of a couple though. Just having a child in general.

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Anonymous

I've been thinking about this recently - being in 40s without kids. Would definitely be a different life. Easier in so many ways, logistically, living, financially, time, investing in self. It's bloody hard with kids, but another ten years and I'll have that life back for the rest of my life, and I'll have my beautiful kids and family and grandkids maybe and all of that as well.

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Anonymous

I was in a terrible marriage, single mum now and thank god every day that I got my little boy. It’s the one reason I don’t regret the time I wasted on a user and abuser. I have so many regrets in life, but the one thing I don’t regret is my gorgeous child.

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Anonymous

Forever ask myself that question. However my question is more. If I had have decided to get an abortion with my first child where would I be now. Would I be here with 4 beautiful children to two men? Living with the love of my life or would I have met him if I didn’t have my older children. What would our life be like if I didn’t have my older children to deal with. Etc there are many days I wish I’d never had my older kids. They have alternate needs and their dad is not around to help out. However my partner is. He is fantastic!! Life is what we make it and the decisions we made over time. We cannot dwell on this though. Some days I would give anything to have a do over, however most days I would stay with what I had chosen. I wouldn’t want to risk never have meeting my one.

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Anonymous

Not judging, just a bit dumbfounded....are you saying you’re only glad you had your first two children because they assisted you in meeting some guy?
I have a child born with a complex congenital condition, it’s tough but I still can’t fathom what you said.

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Anonymous

Yep. A lot of days I wonder and dream about it.

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