Making my child more resilient

Anonymous

Making my child more resilient

I have a 6yr old girl who is doing great at school. The teachers however do mention that she isn’t very resilient. This is probably partly because of me, I have just wanted to protect her and keep her in a bubble. I didn’t realise me being this way was detrimental to her or I would have pulled myself up earlier. Anyway, I am wanting to know how to make my child more resilient, strategies for both her and I.

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Anonymous

Start by letting her do her own conflict resolution.

Invite friends over often and let them sort their problems out as they come to them, unless it is serious of course.

Take her to where there are always lots of kids like a park and whenever she comes to you over something minor suggest what she can do to solve it and send her back without you interfering.

Buy her pets with short life spans.

Find movies and books that are a good example of resilient kids, Home Alone comes to mind and I'm sure there are many others.

Enrol her in a team sport like soccer.

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Anonymous

Google teaching resilience. There are a lot of strategies.
Measuring how big the problem really is. Measuring how big your reaction is.
Having skills to help you bring the emotions back to Calm and strategies to help overcome the situation, which can include simple options, scripting, or role playing each situation as they arise and your child talks to you about them.

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Anonymous

Let her see you fail and recover. Make deliberate mistakes and model appropriate resilient behaviour. In writing, reading, maths, sports, board games, even with interactions with others.

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