I am just leaving this link here (I hope it's allowed)! I have read a few posts on here from a frustrated Mum, step Mum or wife in regards to their loved ones behaviour. I'm just asking that everyone please become familiar with depression signs, depressed people will often come across as "lazy and selfish". We need to learn to take the posters perspective out of these posts when they are describing someone elses behaviour, they are understandably upset and frustrated, so we can look for the signs of depression when they describe their loved one. The advice you give could save a life.