I DONT HAVE MY SH*T TOGETHER

Anonymous

I DONT HAVE MY SH*T TOGETHER

Mums, I am in serious need of help. Professional help, community help, I dont know but I need it. I am constantly dropping my son off to school late. Some mornings I'm 30 minutes late. I was approached by a teacher this morning who asked me why my son was late again this morning and I said it was my fault that I'd overslept. Me oversleeping is such a horrendous issue. I've set 5 alarms all from 6am to 7am and most mornings I am in such deep sleep that I cannot hear them. I suffer from a variety of physical and mental crap it's not funny. Over the weekend I had another flare up of gastritis (your stomach becomes inflamed and it feels like someone has your stomach in a vise and is twisting it and stabbing it at the same time) and that went on for 2 days. Last night I was awoken by my 2 dogs going absolutely bonkers and I was too frightened to go back to sleep (I recently had a break in were stuff was stolen from my yard) and I heard knocking on my house twice at 3am.

My house looks like a bomb has hit it and I feel utterly incapable of cleaning it up. My body and mind are constantly so exhausted that by the time I get back home from drop offs I can feel this heavy blanket coming over my mind and body and I sometimes just crawl back into bed because I cant move from exhaustion. It's like I have 50kg weights just hanging off me everywhere and my mind just gets hazy and tired.

I've gone to the doctors. Ive had the blood tests. Ive had the check ups and everything. My last round of bloods was fine and I asked the doctor "well what's going on with me then? Why am I like this?" He tapped his head and said it's all in your mind... so no help there.

Overall my life is a catastrophic fkn mess and i am sick to death of my son having to deal with the fact that i dont have my shit together. He deserves so much better. He deserves a mum who has energy to do this basic day to day crap! The motivation and the drive to just do what needs to be done!

I dont know what's going on with my body, mind or sleep but it's all gone to shit and i need help. I need to rearrange my life somehow and i need to do it fast. The school is now asking more and more questions about our tardiness and i just dont have the excuses left. Please someone point me in the direction of someone who can help me!

Posted in:  Mental Health, Self Care, Parenthood Guilt, Health & Wellbeing, Behaviour

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Anonymous

I have gastritis too it is horrible. I think what you need is a dietician, cut out the foods that aggravate your gastritis and also find out if you have any intolerances that could be making you feel like this. I can't have lactose at all or I feel like you have described, also when my gastritis is severe I am bed ridden for days. It really is the world of difference when you're eating properly! Good luck.

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Anonymous

I would ask for a mental health care plan and see a psychologist ASAP. You sound really depressed and I suffer from it too. It’s so hard some days especially with the day to day crap. But if you try a combo of medications and counselling it will really help. Xx

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Anonymous

A fair few things can be done to start sifting through the mess:

Mental health plan - see a counsellor to work through those issues.
Ask for another round of bloods and check everything over.
Do you take any mood/hormonal vitamins? I’ve always found they help even if it is the slightest.
Change your GP because he sounds like an arse.
And is it possible to move? It sounds like the sleep could be an issue because you don’t feel safe? So you probably don’t get the quality sleep at night (while you are scared) and then hit it hard in the mornings making you late.
I am assuming you are on your own with your son. Does he not wake you? Are you able to ask him to make sure you get up by a certain time? I find alarms to be useless with me, I just turn them off and fall back asleep, but my son (4yo) is able to wake me after certain cartoons finish on ABC lol

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Anonymous

Hi there. You've described mental health issues. That fucking doctor makes me so angry. I've been exactly where you are and also had them shrug and say that's all there is.
It is not! Go to a woman doctor. Keep going until you get help. You need a referral to a psychologist and you need help with this.
Meanwhile, instead of saying you that overslept, say you are struggling with health issues and even mental health issues and anxiety affecting sleep and tell them you know his schooling is being affected and it's adding to your stress, ask if they have support or referrals for help.
They care about your child and you as well, but saying you slept in causes you to feel like shit and they don't understand the extent either.

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Anonymous

If your alarm is right next to your bed,it’s so easy to hit snooze. Forcing yourself to physically get out of bed may be a simple trick, but it’s an effective one. I agree with what others have said to ask for a health care plan and dietician , eating the right foods helps with feeling good & sleep. Are you able to do a work out after school drop off at home to build up energy levels so you don’t feel like going back to bed. I would also ask for some vitamins you may be able to take

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Anonymous

Can I ask what state your in so I can try link you up with some support servives?

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